Parents giving up adopted child

[lenahk]

I guess none of us know their side of the story... but let me assure you that this case has sparked outrage in the Netherlands as well. In fact, while the SCMP did not mention the diplomat's name to protect the privacy of everyone involved, some Dutch papers mention names, show photos and even part of their address...

The couple is still in HK and are still the legal parents of the girl, who has been in foster care since May (when they gave her up) until HK welfare has found a new family for her.

 

[spockey]

Found this on the International Harold Tribune:

The official at the South Korean consulate, however, said the family had two other children, a 14-year-old-boy, and a second son, born after the girl was adopted.

Full article can be found here.

http://www.iht.com/articles/ap/2007/12/11/asia/AS-GEN-Hong-Kong-Adopted-Girl-Returned.php

Even an expert at the HKU's Social Welfare Faculty cannot believe how incredibly ridiculous their excuse is for giving up the child.

 

[Neha]

surprising it took them 7 years to realise that the adoption went wrong. How slow are they? Adoption is not like buying things if u dont like it u can exchange or return it. Horrible people. May they rot in hell for hurting a child

 

[rina15]

Hello,
I speak Dutch and I read Dutch papers. Here is a link to an article with the name and the photo of this diplomat and his wife:
http://www.telegraaf.nl/binnenland/2762360/_Jade_het_wegwerpkind__.html
He is not anonymous in Dutch papers, and most Dutch people are raging and say that he now has no right to represent their country. He is actually of Indonesian origin and his wife is Dutch - so, I wonder what food do they call theirs?
If you do search on his name in Google, you even find his email address. I emailed him to tell how disgusted I was, and received an automated reply that he is off work till January 2008.

 

[rina15]

A couple of years ago there was a case like with with an Irish family returning their Indonesian son to an orphanage after 2 years because they got child of their own. Irish child welfare organisations took up his case and went to court, and the judge decided that the child can keep his Irish passport and that the "parents" should pay him big maintenance monthly till the age of 18! He now lives with his biological mother. See here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tristan_Dowse
I think something like this should be done for this girl too. Can some organisation in HK take this case on?

 

[Neha]

good work rina15 ! very resourceful. we should all send them emails

 

[Rosanna]

Adopting and than giving up? what type of conscience these guys have? and they had to wait for 7 years to decide to abandone her. Were they waiting for a 7 year itch or something. I agree with spockey a child of 4months doesn't know a thing to have such differences.
Well If the mother is suffering post-natal depression then why not give up the other children also. How does abandoning only her makes a difference for the them? This is all simply bogus.

 

[mrs momo]

I am so sad for the girl! I know it is not nice but hope what goes around comes around. Hope this couple rot in hell!

I just did a search on google. An article came up about how the couple hosted a party in 2005. The article mentioned the son and wife but nothing about the daughter even back then. I am wondering if they ever treated her as family? http://www.occlub.org/occ/activities/past_event_intro/ny_2005.htm

Feel so angry! I will definitely write to the consulate too!

 

[Ali71]

The more i hear the more angry I get - sure we don't know the full story and newspapers do sensationalise facts to get readers but it seems the facts in the case are so outrageous that a journalist wouldn't make them all up. I think the parents should be investigated for criminal neglect - although I wouldn't want 2 more children to suffer. The whole thing is very strange - there must be more to it.
Happily I do know a number of adopted children, both western and asian who are as part of their families as a biological child, it can work, and we mustn't let this story put others off.

 

[sunniefaith]

A couple of years ago there was a case like with with an Irish family returning their Indonesian son to an orphanage after 2 years because they got child of their own. Irish child welfare organisations took up his case and went to court, and the judge decided that the child can keep his Irish passport and that the "parents" should pay him big maintenance monthly till the age of 18! He now lives with his biological mother. See here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tristan_Dowse
I think something like this should be done for this girl too. Can some organisation in HK take this case on?

I wonder can something like this be done for the poor kid? Or how can we go about helping this kid? These people who adopted this child, I really hope that have a damn good reason for giving up this poor kid. A damn good reason!