erina320
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Yes my children have light curly hair and blue eyes.
Locals snapping pictures of my children?
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Yes my children have light curly hair and blue eyes.
nicolejoy
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My kids also are mixed - and I noticed earlier in the thread that others who were posting (people I've met IRL) about this situation also have mixed kids.
My older daughter is dark hair and dark eyes (not AS dark as 100% Chinese though) but her skin is very pale like mine. Both of my girls have "big eyes" with "double eyelids" that many Chinese tell me are beautiful characteristics. Westerners don't think twice about eyelids
I was talking to a Chinese friend about why people would take photos of my daughter and not hers who is also gorgeous and 100% Chinese. Personally I don't think that my daughter is THAT different looking - but my friend said that to Chinese, she was very different and has many characteristics (eye shape and skin tone) that Chinese find enviable.
howardcoombs
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My kids are western looking. One is very tall, one is a blonde and the other one has very big eyes. They've always been photographed, touched, pinched and caressed; ever since I can remember taking them to Ocean Park.
They used to hate the attention, but they got used to it; and ever since they figured out how to take advantage of it (asking for sweets etc), they loved it.
I'm also a bit unusual in that I'm over 6'5" and hefty. I dont get too many photos in Hong Kong, but whenever I travel into China I get photographed multiple times a day; usually by much smaller people wanting to stand next to me.
They used to hate the attention, but they got used to it; and ever since they figured out how to take advantage of it (asking for sweets etc), they loved it.
I'm also a bit unusual in that I'm over 6'5" and hefty. I dont get too many photos in Hong Kong, but whenever I travel into China I get photographed multiple times a day; usually by much smaller people wanting to stand next to me.
fennho
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it's funny becos from the way i look at it, i dont think it's a cultural thing that the mainlanders like to take pics of kids. Becos i recently went to shanghai with my girl (who's 3) and she's 100% chinese and LOOK chinese and the shanghainese there were commenting how cute she is and proceeded to take pics too. I'm a little squirmy of people taking pics of her too (due to my overactive imagination) but i fig pics are okay, so i put my foot down when it's vid they're taking instead of pics.
I also have had experiences where a caucasian stopped to take pics of my girl so i guess this pic taking thing goes both ways.
I also have had experiences where a caucasian stopped to take pics of my girl so i guess this pic taking thing goes both ways.
nicolejoy
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Hmm, well then maybe my mixed kids are just not cute enough to photograph, so for those who get constantly harassed, since it seems the conclusion is that there is no way to really avoid it, consider yourselves lucky to have adorable children as a trade-off.
I don't think so! It could be many other factors as well, such as places we go, how closely supervised our kids are, how "different" they look (I know some mixed kids who could pass for 100% Chinese, others who could pass for 100% Western)... and MANY MANY other factors
I think the Chinese just like to take photos of everything, and that's combined with a lack of understanding about other cultures' comfort levels when it comes to personal space and privacy.
It's not just babies. I had a friend who was a tall, black man living in China -- and tour groups from the provinces were always pointing, yelling "look! a black person!" and then making him pose for photos.
It's not just babies. I had a friend who was a tall, black man living in China -- and tour groups from the provinces were always pointing, yelling "look! a black person!" and then making him pose for photos.
Gataloca
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It is not only a Chinese thing... everybody can have a lack of understanding about people "comfort levels when it comes to personal space and privacy" because they don't think that the other party might mind.
Take for example this thread from another forum which I used to read when I was pregnant... Having the bump been touch by strangers seems to be a common issue, but as they are not expats, they don't bring up the "cultural" thing there:
http://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-second-trimester/641790-wtf-dont-touch-bump.html
howardcoombs
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Baby bumps : brought smile to my face as you are ofcourse right. Some love it, some hate it; but this is pretty mixed across all cultures.
The photo issue is a lot more divisive because of the fact, just a generation ago, everyone took photos with no worries.
Since then, mostly in the past 10 years, NorthAmerica and UK (and very little bit Europe) have gotten caught up with hysteria while the rest of the world has carried on with photography as nothing has changed.
They hysteria I'm referring to is the "someone took a picture of a child, must be a peado or going to spread it to bunch of paedos on the internet". Forget strangers, parents and grandparents are no longer able to take pictures of their brood without getting banned and hassled. Cant take pictures at the mall, cant take pictures at swim meets, cant take pictures at school plays, cant take pictures at the playground. *arrgghh*
(There are also offshots of this that have been voiced in this thread. "Dont touch my baby, you must be a paedo", "Dont go near my baby, you have germs" and other similar fears.)
Such fears dont exist in many parts of the world and they dont exist in China. Combine that with the curiosity Chinese have with little ones that look different, and we have the clash of cultures.
BTW: I was in Shenzhen airport yesterday on my way to northern China. Out of nowhere, 3 guys showed up with big grins and 1 camera between them. First they started snapping pictures of me and after a few (not before) they asked to pose with me, one at a time, 2 at a time and finally 3 of them together with me. It was mildly annoying as I was trying to get to my gate but cute enough I guess. It didnt bother me and it would not have if it was one of my kids. Harmless curiosity...
The photo issue is a lot more divisive because of the fact, just a generation ago, everyone took photos with no worries.
Since then, mostly in the past 10 years, NorthAmerica and UK (and very little bit Europe) have gotten caught up with hysteria while the rest of the world has carried on with photography as nothing has changed.
They hysteria I'm referring to is the "someone took a picture of a child, must be a peado or going to spread it to bunch of paedos on the internet". Forget strangers, parents and grandparents are no longer able to take pictures of their brood without getting banned and hassled. Cant take pictures at the mall, cant take pictures at swim meets, cant take pictures at school plays, cant take pictures at the playground. *arrgghh*
(There are also offshots of this that have been voiced in this thread. "Dont touch my baby, you must be a paedo", "Dont go near my baby, you have germs" and other similar fears.)
Such fears dont exist in many parts of the world and they dont exist in China. Combine that with the curiosity Chinese have with little ones that look different, and we have the clash of cultures.
BTW: I was in Shenzhen airport yesterday on my way to northern China. Out of nowhere, 3 guys showed up with big grins and 1 camera between them. First they started snapping pictures of me and after a few (not before) they asked to pose with me, one at a time, 2 at a time and finally 3 of them together with me. It was mildly annoying as I was trying to get to my gate but cute enough I guess. It didnt bother me and it would not have if it was one of my kids. Harmless curiosity...
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