How many of you have a fantastic helper?
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I do! Finally. I have been through a few. She has got a fantastic attitude and is absolutely brilliant with my son. She isn't brilliant at everything (e.g. She wrecks clothes quite frequently when ironing), but I think it's very rare to find someone who is all round perfect. My priorities - attitude, my child, my dogs, trust/honesty, work ethic, reliability - and she is great on each count.
Take time interviewing and don't settle until you find the right person. Our helper is far from perfect, she's a bit of an "airhead" when it come to trivial stuff, she's not the best cleaner or cook but tries her best and is willing to learn, I doubt I could ever find better. She has a very pleasant personality, she has more patience with my daughter than I could ever have, always has the energy to play with her, wants to teach her new words, new skills, good manners all the time... she isn't driven by money, she mainly works to have a visa as her long term western boyfriend probably has more income than our household... we know we're lucky to have her even if thing aren't alway perfect.
carang
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i was referred a helper who had been terminated. she's only been with us for 3 weeks, but so far, she's great! the kids love her. she has a great attitude, and she's friendly and up for a good laugh. she is reliable. she is trust-worthy.
the only problem we have is that she has no idea how to cook western food... so, we are working on that...
the only problem we have is that she has no idea how to cook western food... so, we are working on that...
One of my three DH is a true gem. She's honest, speaks up, loves my children and has loads of patience. Always looking to go beyond my expectations. Also knows how to follow things up like.....if my daughter has been ill for a class/gone on holidays, she will follow up on a makeup class, she'll also ask for discounts when enrolling my daughter in classes (after asking around other helpers if discounts are in play).
She's not a very good cook nor great with cleaning but she has a good attitude and doesn't feel things are beneath her.
She's not a very good cook nor great with cleaning but she has a good attitude and doesn't feel things are beneath her.
Workingmom1975
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All of my current helpers are decent. None of them is really "competent in every way" but they're all good at one or two things and have good attitudes. I feel comfortable with giving them constructive feedback cos they do "try" to do a good job!
I have a fantastic helper -- loving to our daughter, reliable, trustworthy, endlessly cheerful and helpful.
She's a godsend. As a working mom, I don't know what I'd do without her.
But I also think it cuts both ways. She's a happy, productive worker because we don't work her like a slave. We don't expect her to shoulder all the childcare and housework herself, and we give her all her legally entitled time off, including all public holidays and FULL Sundays. (She leaves work at 10 pm Saturday and comes back 10 am Monday). We pay decently, and on time, and make sure that she has enough food and basic needs met. We were patient when she first started and made some mistakes -- she's learned now and is excellent.
The people across the hall keep complaining about their terrible luck with helpers -- they've gone through FOUR, which must be a mess with two young children. But their helpers have told mine that they are not given enough food, are forced to work 7 days a week, and are monitored 24 hours a day by camera. No wonder they burn out, and become "bad" helpers who are careless, listless and in a bad mood. I don't think those helper start out "bad" -- they are turned bad by circumstance.
Part of it is luck. But part of it is that you get the helper you deserve. Treat someone well, and they will treat you well back.
She's a godsend. As a working mom, I don't know what I'd do without her.
But I also think it cuts both ways. She's a happy, productive worker because we don't work her like a slave. We don't expect her to shoulder all the childcare and housework herself, and we give her all her legally entitled time off, including all public holidays and FULL Sundays. (She leaves work at 10 pm Saturday and comes back 10 am Monday). We pay decently, and on time, and make sure that she has enough food and basic needs met. We were patient when she first started and made some mistakes -- she's learned now and is excellent.
The people across the hall keep complaining about their terrible luck with helpers -- they've gone through FOUR, which must be a mess with two young children. But their helpers have told mine that they are not given enough food, are forced to work 7 days a week, and are monitored 24 hours a day by camera. No wonder they burn out, and become "bad" helpers who are careless, listless and in a bad mood. I don't think those helper start out "bad" -- they are turned bad by circumstance.
Part of it is luck. But part of it is that you get the helper you deserve. Treat someone well, and they will treat you well back.