Helper Caught Drugging Baby to Sleep

[candyman]

I would immediately call the police if such thing happens! I think the helper needs to be into prison for endangering children!!!!

 

[mummymoo]

I'm not sure what she's done warrants jail time. She might not have known it was wrong per se, given her educational background. Termination, definitely in order, file at Immigration, definitely. Jailing her - well I don't know if she has intentionally tried to hurt the child. Not follow an instruction yes! Out to intentionally harm/maim no!
Look from a practical viewpoint, I agree with Thanka2, you need to look inside your home and work out why this happened. It appears that your helper has to work during the day and sleep at night with your child, she needs to be able to sleep too and was just sorting out a way in which is was workable for her and may not understand the consequences. The sleeping with the child and working during the day time needs to be looked at.

MacauMum, I think your comment is a little harsh. As mums none of us are perfect but to attack the OP for asking for advice/ some perspective and telling people 'it's awful to think some children grow up with such parents.' or to imply her children should be taken away from her is unkind at the very least. Haven't you ever done something you weren't proud of when you were parenting your child, made a bad decision? Lost your temper? Who are you to judge that her parental rights should be removed? I'm hoping your post was just a very visceral reaction and that you didn't really mean it.

 

[mummymoo]

Striker, the second helper needs to go too. Get her to sign something confirming the first maids actions about the medicine so you can release immediately and can make a report to immigration. Then let the second one go once you've sourced a replacement, your second helper sounds very similar to some helpers I see at playgroups and playgrounds who are busy chatting away and not looking after their charges. Not a keeper.

 

[JoyousBaby]

I will fire both helpers... They are there to help out not cause more problems. How can they be caring like you mentioned, when one of them is drugging your baby!

 

[JoyousBaby]

Yes Mummymoo, there are too many such helpers around. Seen a few scolding and yelling at the kids. I believe most parents don't do that in public and why helpers are granted to do so? Wonder if employers know how their maid behave when they are at work and poor kids are too young to tell parents about how they were treated.. Hmmm

 

[elle]

... Seen a few scolding and yelling at the kids. I believe most parents don't do that in public and why helpers are granted to do so? Wonder if employers know how their maid behave when they are at work and poor kids are too young to tell parents about how they were treated.. Hmmm

Drugging a child and disciplining a child, in public or not (after discussing how it should be done with the parents) are two totally different things. I have no problem with a helper or nanny scolding a misbehaving child (uncontrolled yelling / anger should of course be distinguished). We have the exact opposite problem most of the time, children who don't mind their caregivers when they are out in public acting inappropriately. I often feel sorry for the maids taking abuse from kids.

 

[carang]

i just fired a helper who would take no disciplinary actions with my kids whatsoever, be it at home or in public.

i would applaud my helper for scolding/discplining my kids in public if the children's behaviour warranted it.

 

[taysty]

Many years back, my friend also fired a helper for over dosing her child. She specifically told the helper to wake her up when its time to give medicine. The helper thought she could handle it. The result was the child ended up in A and E. My friend never trust helper from then on as this helper even had a degree or diploma in nursing.

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[Gracey]

I think that's probably a waste of the police's time. Legal termination, yes. But jail time? It was an unwise move, but not a malicious one.
If it were a pu yuet who gave Chinese medicine without asking, you'd fire her. But would you call the cops on her?

 

[trttrt]

Two years ago, they jailed a helper for adding her urine to formula and then feeding the infant. http://www.mid-day.com/news/2010/sep/080910-Indonesian-maid-jailed-mixing-urine-in-baby-milk.htm I wonder what the sentence would be in this case..