Crying it out

[mushi]

wanfamily, if i were u i would just let the baby co-sleep till after u get back from your holiday....u have to teach him in any case so what he does now should not matter....how old is yr baby anyway? i did the co-sleeping bit for one or two nights .... this is of crse pre-CIO and it just did not work for me as my baby would cry anyway even if i tried to pat him and all so ultimately i would ahve to get up which was even more tiring since i would be really very groggy....atleast that few steps form my room to his would wake me up a wee bit.

adahc, whether u co-sleep or not at present once the CIo starts it should be in his own room only....it would too difficult to be in the same room and not picking him up unless of crse u r on a holiday like Milk monster.....in fact on my holiday i do plan to sleep in the same room so let';s see..else i am just preparing myself to start all over again once i am back.

and yes CIp does work for most nights but there r a few where something goes wrong and we r back to square one....but there r always exceptiosn in life...the point is u do not forget or let him the rule....

i guess my baby also understand the diff in daytime and nighttime....daytime i rock him to sleep and never let him when he wakes up ina short time....night time after rocking him to sleep i let him CIO.

 

[MilkMonster]

the other option when traveling is to hide out in the washroom. Now that we have 2 kids, we always try to find hotels that have a separate bedroom so our older son can sleep without the little baby crying and waking him up.

 

[putput]

i've been trying to get my 8month old to sleep without being nursed for the past 3 days. I've managed so far but now my daughter is refusing to eat her solids. She's either teething or has a cold. So, if she wakes up in the night, it could be because she is hungry. In which case, what do I do? Ignore the fact that she's possible hungry or feed her and encourage the return of bad habits?

 

[MilkMonster]

i think when they are sick it's hard to do CIO...personally, I wouldn't let a sick baby cry at night, especially if they are not eating well during the day...sorry i guess in this case, you would go back to old habits and then start again with CIO after she is better. My younger son is sick too at the moment (what is this bug that's going around?! it's so bad!! fever, cough, runny nose!!) poor kid is not eating well at all, refuses solids (he's 7mths) and is only taking formula, but much less that he has before. i am now feeding him to sleep bc i am so worried he's not eating enough and if he wakes up at 5 or 6am i wake up to feed him. will go back to CIO once he is feeling better...take care! hope your daughter recovers soon! it's so tough when they're sick...

 

[putput]

Thanks milkmonster.

I'm really struggling with this whole cio situ anyway, and my daughter has become clingy during the day which makes me wonder if me doing the cio this has made her feel insecure or if it's because she seems to be unwell. She's just not a happy bunny at the mo.

Hope your son feels better soon!

 

[mushi]

putput...just hold on CIO for a week i would say....see if it gets her smiles back....if not then its not CIO so atleast that would assure u.... u can get her checked physically by the doc and let him know that u r planning to do CIO so u need to be sure that all is well with her. u would be surprised how much HK docs support u on CIO.....i am a successful CIO mom too and if u read my earlier posts it wasn;t as bad as i had expected.....but nowadays once in while he does cry at night and depending on the cry which i ahve figured out by now i go and attend to him....so all the best!! and let us know if u need any advice.


BTW ladies i am off on a 3-week holiday to India and may not check my emails / internet so regularly hence wishing u all "Merry Christmas and Very Happy New Year!!"..... i am planning to do as much CIO as possible during this holiday and then start all all over again if need be when i get back, bye.

 

[MilkMonster]

Have a great holiday Mushi!! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to everyone!!

PutPut, usually when my kids are sick, they are clingy and emotional - i don't think it has anything to do with CIO. Hold off until they are well again and you are emotionally ready. It's tough enough already to do CIO and follow through, don't start if you don't think it's the right time. Eventually you will get there and we are all here to support you through it!!!

 

[putput]

Thanks all, and a very merry x-mas and happy new year to you all too.

 

[peainpod]

Hi moms, I've been following this thread with great interest since I too have a baby (9 mths now) who is not sleeping well at all. Right now he gets up at least twice in the night after being put down at 8:30-9p.m. - usually around 12 a.m. and again around 3-4'ish. I usually nurse him back to sleep (v bad, i know). Anyway, it's doubly hellish b/c i'm a working mom.

So I've been meaning to do CIO (i get this great resolve when I read your posts, which is v inspiring) but the reason I haven't started is because I know my husband most likely won't go for it. (We've had a conversation and he says "we can try" in this doubtful voice which means that he'll probably go in when it gets tough.)

My question is this: my HELPER is very supportive of the process and we are thinking of doing it for the daytime naps first and LATER trying it out for bedtime. So my question is: is that possible? Or should I just try to convince my husband?

I would really appreciate your advice. Thanks!!

 

[putput]

Not really in a position to advise seeing as I'm in the same boat but I think CIO for daytime naps but not night sleep would be harder. Firstly, your day passes by with your little one crying and it's frustrating. Secondly, I find it screws up the night time routine as by the time my daughter's asleep, it's too close to her next nap time or bed time. Thirdly, assuming the room is brighter during the day, baby can be easily distracted and find it harder to settle. I guess if you're doing both day and night, it's neither her nor there but just daytime may be tough. Experienced CIO mums can probably advise better!