BF in Nursing Room - bad experience
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carang
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you didn't say that the sign said "breastfeeding room"
of course it's ok, but bear in mind that they are trying to do the best by their children too and if the child was already in the middle of a bottle, what did you expect them to do? pull the bottle out of the mouth and pack up everything with a screaming, hungry child and then traipse around the shopping centre looking for a place to sit to feed their child? just as you don't expect your child to wait for food, neither should they.
come on guys, a little perspective here....
of course it's ok, but bear in mind that they are trying to do the best by their children too and if the child was already in the middle of a bottle, what did you expect them to do? pull the bottle out of the mouth and pack up everything with a screaming, hungry child and then traipse around the shopping centre looking for a place to sit to feed their child? just as you don't expect your child to wait for food, neither should they.
come on guys, a little perspective here....
Hey Cara - this topic is about "BF in Nursing Room - bad experience" and I am just giving mine.
You obviously do not realise this but some of your comments are quite uncalled for:-
1) Why are you embarrassed to bf in public? it's not like you're standing on the table at mcdonald's doing a striptease, for goodness sake!
I am not 'embarrased' to bf in public but I really prefer to do it in a nursing room when there is one available, striptease or not.
2) What did you expect them to do? pull the bottle out of the mouth and pack up everything with a screaming, hungry child and then traipse around the shopping centre looking for a place to sit to feed their child?
There are lots he could have done. Perhaps call the mum (yes she was outside shopping) so she can do the feeding and I can breastfeed in the same room? Or leave and bottlefeed in one of these big fat armchairs located just outside the nursing room? And I am quite sure his kid will not scream - she was barely eating otherwise they will be out in the room in no time.
I do appreciate that he is doing what he think is best for his child i.e. feeding her in a quiet room and that would all be okay if no one else is waiting to use the room for its intended purpose. You were not even there to understand the situation so what perspective are you talking about.
You obviously do not realise this but some of your comments are quite uncalled for:-
1) Why are you embarrassed to bf in public? it's not like you're standing on the table at mcdonald's doing a striptease, for goodness sake!
I am not 'embarrased' to bf in public but I really prefer to do it in a nursing room when there is one available, striptease or not.
2) What did you expect them to do? pull the bottle out of the mouth and pack up everything with a screaming, hungry child and then traipse around the shopping centre looking for a place to sit to feed their child?
There are lots he could have done. Perhaps call the mum (yes she was outside shopping) so she can do the feeding and I can breastfeed in the same room? Or leave and bottlefeed in one of these big fat armchairs located just outside the nursing room? And I am quite sure his kid will not scream - she was barely eating otherwise they will be out in the room in no time.
I do appreciate that he is doing what he think is best for his child i.e. feeding her in a quiet room and that would all be okay if no one else is waiting to use the room for its intended purpose. You were not even there to understand the situation so what perspective are you talking about.
carang
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i am merely commenting on what you wrote.
you didn't say that the mother was there.
you didn't say that it was a BREASTFEEDING ROOM (in your initial post... it says nursing room, to me that means feeding room ... sorry if i misunderstood)
you also didn't say that there were any 'big fat armchairs' directly outside...
i stick by my post, but i'm sorry if you took offense. it wasn't meant to cause any.
i am not a BF "nazi" but i truly don't see the big deal. i, too, have used the nursing rooms on occasion, but more because it was a place to sit down without having to buy a $30 cup of coffee. i have also had my husband come in to give me a hand, when i had the two children with me.
i'm sorry, but i think that it's making a mountain out of a molehill.
there are so many other things in this world to be upset about, a father helping his wife or feeding his child should be commended not denegrated.
if you have a problem with the nursing rooms, take it up with the management. (if it had a big sign that said NO MEN ALLOWED as peainpod said, yes, i too, might have said something, but otherwise, not)
you didn't say that the mother was there.
you didn't say that it was a BREASTFEEDING ROOM (in your initial post... it says nursing room, to me that means feeding room ... sorry if i misunderstood)
you also didn't say that there were any 'big fat armchairs' directly outside...
i stick by my post, but i'm sorry if you took offense. it wasn't meant to cause any.
i am not a BF "nazi" but i truly don't see the big deal. i, too, have used the nursing rooms on occasion, but more because it was a place to sit down without having to buy a $30 cup of coffee. i have also had my husband come in to give me a hand, when i had the two children with me.
i'm sorry, but i think that it's making a mountain out of a molehill.
there are so many other things in this world to be upset about, a father helping his wife or feeding his child should be commended not denegrated.
if you have a problem with the nursing rooms, take it up with the management. (if it had a big sign that said NO MEN ALLOWED as peainpod said, yes, i too, might have said something, but otherwise, not)
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My personal view - no baby rooms should be just for b/f, there should be quiet areas for any form of feeding (those little ones get distracted very easily!). Also, ignoring what the sign said, I don't think you should have asked the fathers to leave. They are parents attending to their babies too !
I breastfed my children in Hong Kong for 11 and 8 months, so I do know what it is like being out and about. If you are really uncomfortable with a man being present, just use a light muslin wrap to protect your modesty. I don't think breastfeeding deserves absolute privacy or female only privileges.
What are you going to do when you have to feed without a baby room? Eg. on an aeroplane?
I breastfed my children in Hong Kong for 11 and 8 months, so I do know what it is like being out and about. If you are really uncomfortable with a man being present, just use a light muslin wrap to protect your modesty. I don't think breastfeeding deserves absolute privacy or female only privileges.
What are you going to do when you have to feed without a baby room? Eg. on an aeroplane?
ITA. Few people notice, and if they do, people in general try very hard NOT to look at you. In my experience, the only ones who stare are little kids who are obviously confused having never seen b/f before.
To the OP, if it was a nursing room where men are prohibited, I'd take it up with the management.
As a baby, my daughter always needed a quiet place to feed, her reflux made her all agitated and it was nice to have a few quiet rooms around where we could feed her, or it would have otherwise meant we didn't go out during her feed times. A lot of times this was done by my husband so that I could get a break and just walk around a mall.
I guess what I am trying to say is that it is fantastic that both mums and dads can use these rooms, there are cases where parents and kids need a quiet place irrespective if they are bottle fed or breastfed. And if dad is willing to give the mum time out - I think we should respect that rather than prefer if he called her back to feed the baby
I guess what I am trying to say is that it is fantastic that both mums and dads can use these rooms, there are cases where parents and kids need a quiet place irrespective if they are bottle fed or breastfed. And if dad is willing to give the mum time out - I think we should respect that rather than prefer if he called her back to feed the baby
Honkyblues
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While I personally don't mind breastfeeding in public (and still do with my 10-mth-old), some people are more shy or conservative or modest or less confident. The OP is obviously in one of those categories. There's nothing wrong with that - everyone is different. And let's face facts, with certain babies at certain ages, it IS difficult to feed discreetly - lots of bobbing on and off and exposing a nipple when babies are around 3-4mths, or with a newborn, mum often has to wave the nipple around to try to get little one to latch on.
What I'm trying to say is please give the OP a break - she didn't create this thread to be made to feel silly for wanting to feed her baby without men around. She wanted a bit of sympathy - and as a supportive community, we should give her that - not lecture her on the rights and wrongs of breastfeeding rooms versus bottle-feeding rooms, or mums' rooms versus parents' rooms.
Good luck to all - however you feed your little ones - in finding a nice spot in HK to do that! :gl:
Live and let live, and big hugs to all!!! :grouphug:
What I'm trying to say is please give the OP a break - she didn't create this thread to be made to feel silly for wanting to feed her baby without men around. She wanted a bit of sympathy - and as a supportive community, we should give her that - not lecture her on the rights and wrongs of breastfeeding rooms versus bottle-feeding rooms, or mums' rooms versus parents' rooms.
Good luck to all - however you feed your little ones - in finding a nice spot in HK to do that! :gl:
Live and let live, and big hugs to all!!! :grouphug: