Baby frightened of daddy

I am a father and I would not dream of hitting my baby daughter! This is child abuse pure and simple and your number 1 priority is to protect your baby.
 
Jeanyeeli,

I think you are very brave for having the courage to speak out about what has happened. Please know that we do sympathise with your situation and understand that you are trying to do the best that you can in obviously difficult circumstances. Are there grandparents around that could give you a break with the baby - so that you could talk with your husband about what's happened and why it's so wrong to hit a baby? also the suggestion about meeting other dads is a great one. I know you might be feeling scared or embarrased to share your feelings in person with others but hang in there, we are here to listen and support you.

Take care of yourself and your little baby
 
Uhm, I know it will sound like I want to stir up things... but does this case fall under criminal offence? Guess I'm not helping jeanyeeli with this statement, but coming out with this 'truth' in a public forum makes the case a public issue now, doesn't it?
Rani/Shri, what do you think?
I am deeply concerned about what's going on with this 4-month-old - if the story is true.. Apparently, there are trolls in forums who come up with fake stories. I hope it's just something like that and not a real thing happening that we NOW know about!
 
We dont really know how he hit the baby so to call child abuse authorities and all will be a little too soon. the decision lies with the mother she will decide what is best for her child. Give her a chance
 
I think that on this forum, everyone is somewhat anonymous. The mother who posted here said that her husband left bruises on the baby so it seems that the case is quite severe already. And even though my heart (and many other hearts) break when we hear what is going on, I agree with Neha, this woman must make her own decisions for the health of her baby and herself. Men who hit helpless children often have been hitting their mothers as well--and that is a very real factor. Human relationships are complicated and even though those from the outside looking in can see what she should "obviously do," the best thing we all can do is be truthful, listening ears who are there to support and help. She has been given the information she needs (as well as all of our opinions) in order to make a wise decision and I really hope that she will. I for one, am totally available to help in any capacity if she might need it--because leaving a situation like this or even working within it, can not only be difficult it can be dangerous. It's more complicated than any of us can imagine.
 
Update between baby and daddy

Just to update you with my baby and Daddy that he is beginning to accept him and can be held by him. Also, he doesn't cry when he sees him which is a miracle.

Anyway, thank you all on your comments and advises.
 
MY HEART GOES OUT TO THIS POOR BABY!!!

i am in shock an actually had to stop reading. hitting a baby is not acceptable!! NEVER!!! letting it happen is just as bad in my book.

for the baby's sake, the best way forward is counselling.

if i was you, i would ensure my baby grows into a balanced and loving child then a balanced and loving adult.
 
jeanyeeli said:
Just to update you with my baby and Daddy that he is beginning to accept him and can be held by him. Also, he doesn't cry when he sees him which is a miracle.

Anyway, thank you all on your comments and advises.
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So good to hear that. Hope the baby & daddy relationship stays closer.
 
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