When can I stop living like a parasite?

[carang]

very good advice, bumps!

 

[mwong222]

my wife feels the same way but like others have pointed out, how can you be a parasite just by living off your husband? your married. this may seem old-fashioned but kind of your husband's job to take care of the family.

as an advice i give to people who have not found a job, it is because they are not looking hard enough. when people ask me what i would do if i lost my job, i tell them i would do anything to support my family. even if i have take a job below my degree (i am a well paid office manager with IT degree but i will sweep the floors at McDonalds if i have to (this is just an extreme example)). my pride is not going to stand in the way of taking care of my family.

you may not be able to find your dream job or ideal job right now but you might be able to find a job that is lower than your requirements or in a different field.

if you are not willing to do what it takes then i would follow bumps' advice and seek help before you do something you will regret. i used to be depressed (and really did stupid things) about not having a job but i was single then so i had a lot of pride in finding a job that matched my requirements. only becoming a parent has changed my mind.