Urgent, helper not following instructions - suggestions please

[pinki09]

Guess what I slept late last night, and when I woke up all decided to terminate my helper, she actually had the letter of notice ready for us, saying that she is unhappy with us, and she doesnt want to say anything because it will affect my pregnancy, so she is leaving on her own will, putting all the blame on us ( I am so sooooo upset. We should have really terminated her at the very first instance, we just kept giving her chances coz I thought it will be a big blow to her career. Now I feel so very stupid, that all the blame is on us, and she is behaving as if she has been tortured and is willing to get liberated from our clutches ( she said she will give us a notice because she is initiating it...I wonder what horror story would she make about us to her agency and to her new employers!! (( shucks, I feel so terrible!!! ((
Please tell me even though she has given us a months notice, can I still give her money in lieu of and let her go immediately? Or this too has to be decided by her ? and does her writing of notice letter make things bad for us to hire the new helper or put us on bad record in the immigration department?? God!!! earlier I used to believe the horror stories helpers would create and sympathize with some....now I have lost ALL trust, that these are all crocodile tears. ((

 

[md23]

You always have the option to give her one month pay (plus tickets, holiday pay, etc) and ask her to leave right away.
I heard if you frequently terminate helper, it might make it harder for you to hire a new helper, but in this case, I don't think it will affect anything.

 

[Gracey]

Pinki -- This is a REALLY GOOD thing. You're upset because you're being emotional and worried about things like "blame" and "feeling stupid." Don't be. Who cares? Soon, you will never see this person ever again.
You should be relieved because your helper has done the dirty work for you. Now you don't have to fire her, nor do you have to take any legal responsibility for firing her.
Tell her straight that you'll pay out her one month. She should be happy with the extra money.
Think of it not as a personal relationship but as a boss who's been secretly hoping to fire an unpleasant employee who then quits of her own free will.
As for immigration -- I think they only raise an eyebrow with repeat offenders -- like people who go through helpers the way people go through socks. You had her for 8 months and it didn't work out. I don't think that will be held against you.

 

[carang]

why are you upset? you weren't happy and neither was she.... seems like a win-win situation to me!