unsalted butter and yelling husband

Ask him does he think his mum would poison him? Then how does he think you will poison your son? Unless you lived in Jones Town ofcourse in the 70's.
Fat is very important for brain development in the first 2 years of life. Your husband would think even breastfeeding is poisoning a baby as it contains higher fat content than cow's milk.
 
"i saw something that said if you use wasabi, it kills 90% of the bacteria on the fish which is why japanese rarely get sick from it..."
Can believe that for sure, wasabi kills 100% of the bacteria in my tummy hahahahaha!!!!!
 
Tell your husband to take a hike AND a chill pill AND do his own research before making any uninformed comments. I use a combination of Annabel Karmel's recipes and modified them to suit my child's needs (I have to be careful of food allergies since I have them). My in-laws did not always agree with what I feed her but hey, it's my baby and I stood my ground. And yes, my husband doesn't always agree with what I feed her either but I continue to do what I think it's best. Since he's not at home that much anyway, he doesn't always know what I'm feeding our little girl. And as of date, my little girl is past 18 months old, completely healthy and is seldom sick. And if my husband ever yells at me over anything, you can be sure I won't be taking it lying down.
 
Solidstars I've met your bub. He's a lovely size and weight! You are obviously doing a good job at feeding him :) Stand up for yourself. You are a good mum!
 
Solidstars, please do some internet research and present your husband with some facts he can't argue with:

eg: Nutrition for Infants and Children (which explains that healthy fats - including butter (though it does specify organic butter) - are an essential part of an infants diet.

I think you need to communicate to your husband in terms he can understand (ie, medically backed research) what constitutes good infant nutrition, and you need to set some boundaries for him and your MiL, and tell him to get on board, get your back and support you in raising a healthy child.

I'm sure you're doing a great job. You just need your husband to understand that too.

best of luck!
 
Remind your husband of his tantrum when your baby is 2 and refuses all vegetables. Your husband will be grateful he eats anything, even frozen. Wait until he is demanding to be taken to McDonalds. A bit of butter will look pretty good then.

Your husband has no perspective on your child's diet. I hope this doesn't extend to other areas of his parenting.

Man who listens to his mother over his wife = mummy's boy.
Man who yells at his wife = total moron.
 
As you said, it's prob his choice of words and tone that really upsets you. And you should tell him that when you are both calm. Coming from different cultural background there bound to be things you two would disagree with. Suggest to him that you two should discuss these things instead of yelling or blaming each other. And for harmless things, sometimes you can let him "win" after a civilised discussion to encourage him to discuss things instead of yelling.
I'm sure T will grow up big and strong! Btw, I actually made a point to put some butter or oil in my baby's food to make sure he gets some fat in his diet.
 
thanks everyone... i've tried the 'present the research' method, he has an excuse for everything, research are for foreign babies, chinese medicine is better than western, etc etc etc.

everytime i try to stand my ground we end up fighting even more, and i can't stand yelling at each other in front of the baby, i'm sure it upsets him. I used to be really stubborn too but nowadays i just let him have his say and not say anything back... except today i thought he was being ridiculous and let him get to me...

my mil's actually not too bad, i think the main problem is husband and i are having communication issues...

i didn't know bfing had higher fat than cow's milk! I will tell him that as well...
 
HUMAN BABIES ARE HUMAN BABIES! there are NO differences physiologically between white/chinese/african babies.

all you have to do to see that is look at a chinese person who was born/raised in the west to see that the ONLY difference between the races is CHILDHOOD NUTRITION!

ps> ever notice the ugly BLACK teeth that many hk babies have? they are missing something essential in their diet (don't know what, though).

PPS> can i come over an give your hubby a slap?
 
Add my slap to that one on behalf of all mothers out there who are poisoning their babies. Better go and check the kids, just remembered I fed them frozen pizza and fish fingers in the same week. I hope they are OK....
Maybe your husband could get on here and give us all some advice? I'd like to see him try...
 
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