My eldest was 20 months when we sent him to his first playgroup in Singapore, which was 4 hours a day, five days a week. The nursery had a policy where the parents could only pick-up/drop-off - absolutely no hanging around! He bounded in happily the first two days, excited to play with new toys and new children. After that, he realized that we were missing until we came to pick him up, so there was a little fussing and anxiety expressed for another three days, but it took only a few minutes to allay. He's never had any problems since and look forward to school happily every day. I think it's tougher if the school doesn't have a consistent policy for all its students - allowing some parents to stay if they want. Can you imagine how confused the children must be? Even the children adjusting well must wonder why their parents didn't stay when other children's parents did. I would recommend finding a school with a consistent policy - either one that compels all the parents to stay for the same duration or one that prohibits them from staying at all.
Transitioning from accompanied to drop-off
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carang
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dany, i'm sorry, but as a playgroup teacher THE BEST THING you could have done is to leave when asked.
teachers KNOW how to handle children when they are upset. it's THEIR job to take care of it. i can tell you that you probably caused more problems by staying than if you'd just dropped her off as requested.
of course the children sometimes feel scared, but it's NOT your job to comfort them once you are into the school. that's the teacher's job.
i can guarantee that your daughter would have settled MUCH faster if you'd allowed her the opportunity to do so.
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teachers KNOW how to handle children when they are upset. it's THEIR job to take care of it. i can tell you that you probably caused more problems by staying than if you'd just dropped her off as requested.
of course the children sometimes feel scared, but it's NOT your job to comfort them once you are into the school. that's the teacher's job.
i can guarantee that your daughter would have settled MUCH faster if you'd allowed her the opportunity to do so.
(caps for emphasis only, not intended as yelling
)