I know how you both feel. I have so many questions unanswered because I have such a short time to talk with the doctor.
To your point, Adrianna, about the doctor wanting to understand your particular problems and history, that is what upset me so much when I first started this process. I am sure that my first IUI didn't work just because the doctor had forgotten that I had a problem with bleeding too early after ovulation (from 4 or 5 days afterwards) so didn't give me anything which I later found out would have helped...
Then with the first IVF I had been put on the pill to regulate my cycle and I bled for quite a long time. I called the doctor twice because I was worried and he said it was fine. Then when the day came to start the IVF and I said I was still bleeding he told me that 'this was very irregular' and I would have to wait another month! I burst into tears. I had called him TWICE and he had said it was okay. He just said "Oh I didn't realise you had bled for that long" but I had told him. The annoying thing is that he thought I was being over emotional. I wasn't. It was just that I felt that nobody had any control over the situation because the doctor didn't follow my personal issues and every time I went in for an appointment I may as well have been a brand new patient for all he knew. We al have different fertility problems and SURELY these should result in a different approach for different people.
Anyway, a good thing was that when it failed everybody was really sweet. The nurses and the doctor. I had just gone in to hand something to the nurses but he took me in to his room and we talked and he looked at the pictures of my frozen embryos and we decided what to do next. That made a big difference.
To your point, Adrianna, about the doctor wanting to understand your particular problems and history, that is what upset me so much when I first started this process. I am sure that my first IUI didn't work just because the doctor had forgotten that I had a problem with bleeding too early after ovulation (from 4 or 5 days afterwards) so didn't give me anything which I later found out would have helped...
Then with the first IVF I had been put on the pill to regulate my cycle and I bled for quite a long time. I called the doctor twice because I was worried and he said it was fine. Then when the day came to start the IVF and I said I was still bleeding he told me that 'this was very irregular' and I would have to wait another month! I burst into tears. I had called him TWICE and he had said it was okay. He just said "Oh I didn't realise you had bled for that long" but I had told him. The annoying thing is that he thought I was being over emotional. I wasn't. It was just that I felt that nobody had any control over the situation because the doctor didn't follow my personal issues and every time I went in for an appointment I may as well have been a brand new patient for all he knew. We al have different fertility problems and SURELY these should result in a different approach for different people.
Anyway, a good thing was that when it failed everybody was really sweet. The nurses and the doctor. I had just gone in to hand something to the nurses but he took me in to his room and we talked and he looked at the pictures of my frozen embryos and we decided what to do next. That made a big difference.
