carang
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i apologise, it wasn't meant in that way. it was only meant for emphasis not as shouting.(although, i should know better... as i sometimes complain of all capitals myself).
as for the rest....i remember my mother always expecting the best of my brother and i. she always instilled in us to treat others the way we would want to be treated ourselves. we both live up to this to the best of our ability. i don't explicitly remember any "anti-drugs" talk from my mum, but i DO remember her disappointment if i ever did anything that she felt i shouldn't do. to this day, i have never even tried marijuana! although i've been in the position MANY times over where that and more has been on offer, i've always refrained. i also lost my virginity much later than many of my peers simply because of the talks that my mother gave me. she warned me of the possible outcomes if things just get out of hand. it didn't matter to me what others thought of me. my mum and i just talked about it recently. i think that it comes down to what/how she taught me. she believes that it is only partly that. that the other part is my own personality. that i was always a leader rather than a follower.
i argued that that is only a small part of it. i argued that it was her confidence in me, her belief in my and in my abilities that helped me through. it was the fact that she constantly told me that if "friends" pressured me into something that i was not comfortable with, they weren't really friends at all. you've heard it said before that if you hear something often enough you begin to believe it. that is what i think happened because my brother turned out exactly the same way.
(father had very little influence on me and continues to have no influence on me or much of my behaviour.)
i'm trying to achieve what my mother did.... strong (opinionated!LOL!), independent children.
as for the rest....i remember my mother always expecting the best of my brother and i. she always instilled in us to treat others the way we would want to be treated ourselves. we both live up to this to the best of our ability. i don't explicitly remember any "anti-drugs" talk from my mum, but i DO remember her disappointment if i ever did anything that she felt i shouldn't do. to this day, i have never even tried marijuana! although i've been in the position MANY times over where that and more has been on offer, i've always refrained. i also lost my virginity much later than many of my peers simply because of the talks that my mother gave me. she warned me of the possible outcomes if things just get out of hand. it didn't matter to me what others thought of me. my mum and i just talked about it recently. i think that it comes down to what/how she taught me. she believes that it is only partly that. that the other part is my own personality. that i was always a leader rather than a follower.
i argued that that is only a small part of it. i argued that it was her confidence in me, her belief in my and in my abilities that helped me through. it was the fact that she constantly told me that if "friends" pressured me into something that i was not comfortable with, they weren't really friends at all. you've heard it said before that if you hear something often enough you begin to believe it. that is what i think happened because my brother turned out exactly the same way.
(father had very little influence on me and continues to have no influence on me or much of my behaviour.)
i'm trying to achieve what my mother did.... strong (opinionated!LOL!), independent children.
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