rani
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We sell I'm a Big Brother on ShopinHK and have many others on the same topic. New Siblings.
Preparing first child for a sibling!
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southside852
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Suv, what kind of doll did you buy for your son? We are expecting #2 this fall and my son will be 30 months so a bit older, but he obviously has no concept of another baby coming his way soon. I like the doll idea, but not sure his daddy will like him playing with dolls 
carang
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seriously> tell your hubby to take a hike!
one of the HUGE pet peeves i have is the stereo-typing we put our kids through starting a such a young age!
every woman i've ever met has said how much they want their husbands to nurture their childand help her take care of it, but god forbid we teach our boys that using a doll!
i get so angry when people comment on my son's painted fingernails, 'oh, you look like a girl! what a girlie thing to do!'...he's gone from thinking they were pretty to being embarrassed and demanding that i remove the polish right then and there, even though he spent 20 minutes deciding what colour he wanted! it's not a big deal. so he's got some colour on his fingernails???
sorry, had to get that out of my system.
any doll will do, but if you can find one that comes with "extras" like bottle, potty, nappy etc that's even better as your son can help his baby when you help yours.
one of the HUGE pet peeves i have is the stereo-typing we put our kids through starting a such a young age!
every woman i've ever met has said how much they want their husbands to nurture their childand help her take care of it, but god forbid we teach our boys that using a doll!
i get so angry when people comment on my son's painted fingernails, 'oh, you look like a girl! what a girlie thing to do!'...he's gone from thinking they were pretty to being embarrassed and demanding that i remove the polish right then and there, even though he spent 20 minutes deciding what colour he wanted! it's not a big deal. so he's got some colour on his fingernails???
sorry, had to get that out of my system.
any doll will do, but if you can find one that comes with "extras" like bottle, potty, nappy etc that's even better as your son can help his baby when you help yours.
southside852
Registered User
i know - so true! my son loves his kitchen and i had to fight for that one!
thanks for the advice...i think a doll would do wonders for him!
thanks for the advice...i think a doll would do wonders for him!
carang
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sorry, southside... hope i didn't offend you... like i said, it's just from personal experience.
just last saturday, i explained on three occasions to parents at my playgroup that we let the children play with what THEY want to play with NOT with what the parents want them to play with. i had TWO dads separately make disparaging remarks about their son playing with dolls/kitchens etc.
i read a study/saw a programme (can't remember which) that theorised that the measured differences in girls' abilities in maths/sciences is directly proportional to the toys that they are given to play with... not as many "building" toys (bricks/lego/blocks) as boys, so the girls' spacial awareness and the ability to visualise objects from all angles is not as well developed as it is in boys. that their poorer results have NOTHING to do with their abilities, rather with what they've experienced from childhood.
i HATE toys'r'us for that very reason! have you ever noticed the pink "prettiness" of the "girls'" section.... all dolls, clothes, make-up, VACUUM cleaners, kitchens etc....
while the "boys" section is robots, cars, dinosaurs, smash'em'ups and science toys??? completely DRIVES ME CRAZY!
ps> caps for emphasis, not intended as yelling... welll most of the time! LOL!
just last saturday, i explained on three occasions to parents at my playgroup that we let the children play with what THEY want to play with NOT with what the parents want them to play with. i had TWO dads separately make disparaging remarks about their son playing with dolls/kitchens etc.
i read a study/saw a programme (can't remember which) that theorised that the measured differences in girls' abilities in maths/sciences is directly proportional to the toys that they are given to play with... not as many "building" toys (bricks/lego/blocks) as boys, so the girls' spacial awareness and the ability to visualise objects from all angles is not as well developed as it is in boys. that their poorer results have NOTHING to do with their abilities, rather with what they've experienced from childhood.
i HATE toys'r'us for that very reason! have you ever noticed the pink "prettiness" of the "girls'" section.... all dolls, clothes, make-up, VACUUM cleaners, kitchens etc....
while the "boys" section is robots, cars, dinosaurs, smash'em'ups and science toys??? completely DRIVES ME CRAZY!
ps> caps for emphasis, not intended as yelling... welll most of the time! LOL!
southside852
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absolutely not - don't worry about it carang!
it's funny b/c when my son is at nursery he loves the kitchens and the feeding the dolls their bottles....we let him play with whatever he wants in that situation....but when it comes to buying him his own toys, it's a different story i guess. we got a kitchen for him that's very boy so no problems and my son loves it!
it's funny b/c when my son is at nursery he loves the kitchens and the feeding the dolls their bottles....we let him play with whatever he wants in that situation....but when it comes to buying him his own toys, it's a different story i guess. we got a kitchen for him that's very boy so no problems and my son loves it!
my son loves pretend kitchen too- am about to buy him one. Hope he will cook his wife some fabulous meals....Southside, I found a non blonde, sort of a gender neutral looking doll at Smarty Pants on Lyndhurst terrace. Its a bit on the small side, but he likes "him" since he has a baby brother now. He also puts his baby panda and baby gorilla in the pram to take them for walks.
MilkMonster
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we got our doll from toys r us, it's gender neutral and came with a blue winnie the pooh stroller. we got it for 1st son when 2nd was on the way but now both boys 3.5 and 2yr love the doll and like to pretend they are daddies. i think it's really cute, when their little girl friends come over to play, they "let her be the mommy" LOL
we don't have a kitchen set, but my boys love to pretend to cook and feed me pretend food that they have made : )
we don't have a kitchen set, but my boys love to pretend to cook and feed me pretend food that they have made : )