My MIL is driving me nuts
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Ladies, all well said...rani, I'd follow your suit and also find myself a lets-not-be-an-annoying-MIL buddy to keep an eye out for me...
I'd certainly hope my son finds me a fantastic DIL...but, sigh...is there really any girl good enough for my son??? I doubt it...
BTW, he's now 1 and half years old...
I'd certainly hope my son finds me a fantastic DIL...but, sigh...is there really any girl good enough for my son??? I doubt it...
BTW, he's now 1 and half years old...
I've written down heaps of things that both my mother and MIL do that annoys the crap out of me so when my kids are older I can remind myself not to do them.
The other day I was lining up in a shop to pay for something and in front of me were two older women, both grandmas. (Say 60 or so). One of them was bitching about the daughter in law saying that everytime she calls and asks to see the grandkids there's this whole song and dance and she has to schedule it in and make a really big deal out of it etc. She didn't say it as nice as I'm writing it though, her tone was really angry. The other woman said, oh yes it's so hard for people once they have children to fit everything in, get kids to after school activities etc. She was totally sticking up for the parents and not letting her friends bitching and moaning go anywhere. When they turned to look at me one had a lovely relaxed face, aging but well. The other looked haggard and mean, deep lines all over her face, what I call 'angry woman lines', angry from all the scowling and complaining she's down over her lifetime! You can guess which face belonged to which woman.
So the moral of the story is don't turn out to be the bitchy mum or MIL or not only will your kids hate having you over but you'll end up ugly!
The other day I was lining up in a shop to pay for something and in front of me were two older women, both grandmas. (Say 60 or so). One of them was bitching about the daughter in law saying that everytime she calls and asks to see the grandkids there's this whole song and dance and she has to schedule it in and make a really big deal out of it etc. She didn't say it as nice as I'm writing it though, her tone was really angry. The other woman said, oh yes it's so hard for people once they have children to fit everything in, get kids to after school activities etc. She was totally sticking up for the parents and not letting her friends bitching and moaning go anywhere. When they turned to look at me one had a lovely relaxed face, aging but well. The other looked haggard and mean, deep lines all over her face, what I call 'angry woman lines', angry from all the scowling and complaining she's down over her lifetime! You can guess which face belonged to which woman.
So the moral of the story is don't turn out to be the bitchy mum or MIL or not only will your kids hate having you over but you'll end up ugly!
joyofliving
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"I'd certainly hope my son finds me a fantastic DIL...but, sigh...is there really any girl good enough for my son??? I doubt it..."
Maybe not good enough in your eyes, but as long as he loves her and they make each other happy you should not be worried
Our children's happiness is most important to us, isn't it?
Maybe not good enough in your eyes, but as long as he loves her and they make each other happy you should not be worried
Our children's happiness is most important to us, isn't it?
carang
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i have on occasion considered cutting off my contact with my MIL. i KNOW she has the best of intentions, but she truly drives me mad. there are WAYYYY too many things to write down here, but i understand where everyone is coming from. my MIL seems to have a seive for a brain. hubby tells her something and within 5 minutes she's off doing her own thing. i've given up. she's in her 70s, won't be around forever and she really loves my kids. i've decided that often it is better for my kids to go with her on their own sometimes so i don't have to witness everything there that gets me all worked up. what i don't know doesn't always hurt...and all that.
there are times i'd love to move back to canada to escape my MIL... but then i'd only be closer to my dad... MIL is BY FAR the lesser of two evils.
i really just keep repeating the mantra, "she's doing it out of love..." to help me smile and bear it.
there are times i'd love to move back to canada to escape my MIL... but then i'd only be closer to my dad... MIL is BY FAR the lesser of two evils.
i really just keep repeating the mantra, "she's doing it out of love..." to help me smile and bear it.
cheerfulmama
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We are leaving tomorrow and thank god that she is now in Shenzhen doing her nails. Yeah, that's her. So, up to now, we have been enjoying the peacefulness of zero of her advice calls.
in the next few days, I will be hearing (not listening) things like, "isn't grandma smart that I have brought this" "I just know that we will be needing this" blah blah blah..............wish me good luck.
in the next few days, I will be hearing (not listening) things like, "isn't grandma smart that I have brought this" "I just know that we will be needing this" blah blah blah..............wish me good luck.
B
Bumps
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Goodness me, enough to drive you to drink!