I know quite a few women who have chosen home births. I know women who have given birth successfully multiple times at home. I even lived in the basement apartment of a couple while in university and they gave birth at home upstairs while we were home and we didn't hear anything. One of my husband's close university friends in Australia had an awful experience during birth in a hospital with her first child so with her second she and her husband did a "free birth" at home--there was a doula who attended but actually the doula wasn't even there for the birth--they did it all by themselves and had a great experience. Her son was over 10 pounds at birth and she gave birth very quickly (I think like three hours or something start to finish) and didn't have any tearing at all. She loved her experience. I have a close friend from secondary school who gave birth at home with a midwife in the States a couple of weeks ago--her first child and her husband and mother were there and from what they've told me it was an amazing experience.
Basically, I agree with TNT that the women and their partners who choose home birth are probably the most aware, educated and up-to-date individuals out there--they are the super proactive ones. It's kind of a sad irony that they get pinned with this "irresponsible" label by society as the ones I see as really irresponsible are the ones who don't educate themselves about birth and walk into a hospital and labor, figuratively throw their hands up in the air and basically say to the staff and doctors, "Do whatever because I waive not only my involvement in this process but also the my rights and the rights of my child." There is such an attitude of waiting for the doctor, midwife or staff to come riding in on horseback as your "knight in shining armour" and rescue you, "the damsel in distress." I find that irresponsible and immature. Reminds me of
this bit of writing I read recently. But the truth is, those are the women celebrated on the reality TV shows about birth--they're the ones who get the pat on the back for "doing the right thing".
No, make no mistake, the people who choose homebirth are doing so because they know what's really going on in the hospital and have realized there is a different way. Many of these women could teach a university-level course on childbirth they're so educated on the subject. Every choice has consequences and it's totally false to assume that a hospital birth carries no risk or that those risks are lower than home birth or birth center birth.
When I gave birth for the first time in the States, I walked into my midwife's office for the first appointment when I was seven months pregnant (as I was in HK for the previous six). I timidly explained to her how I was prepared for a natural birth without any augmentation, interference or interventions and that my husband and I were really serious about it and had been training for such a birth for three months. I was hoping that she wouldn't start arguing with me or laugh me off like, "Yeah, that's nice but it probably won't work out..." Instead, the midwife gave me a hug and said that she was so glad to meet women like me. She said it was like a breath of fresh air.
She had been attending births in homes, at birth centers and in hospitals for 20+ years and she said at the current hospital most of the women she said that she encountered had "checked out" of the birth--they weren't active participants and she said in those circumstances the best she could do was try to minimize the damage.