ingrate!!!

[fingerscrossed]

I understand that every mother who has a carer goes through this at one point or another. Try some mummy and baby time by going out for a stroll in the park or just downstairs without the helper. I used to take my son to Starbucks with me - he'd just lie in his pram while I have my tall latte and I'd talk to him whether he understood me or not.

Don't worry, kids know who their mothers are.

 

[ihave3cats]

Dun worry..it will go. My helper used to take of my gal almost 24/7. She I now 3 years old. She only wants me!! The child knows who his/her mummy is. And they know who the helper is and what her role is. Now my girl look for me when in distress or just wants a hug. But she will hand her emptied drink packet to the helper.

 

[1stimemum]

zac08,
at birth, we would have to hold him for 3hrs just walking/rocking him NON stop till he fell asleep. The whole entire time, he would be crying and screaming!!!..

it only got better at 2 mths done to 1hr of crying and when she took over, it dropped to 15mins! it still takes me twice as long to get him to sleep.

whilst i would love to do all the naps, i feel that him getting his much needed sleep is more impt than my ego/ pride.

 

[jvn]

I have the same feelings sometimes I know how lucky am I to have a) a helper and b) such a fantastic helper that The Boy loves, but I do wonder if he prefers her to me!

If bedtime is stressful I'm not sure how bonding you would both find it - there's plenty of other ways to bond! On the other hand it is nice to have the flexibility of them not minding who puts them to bed but I'm sure you realise that every Sunday ;-)

I'm sure the bedtime thing will work itself out so make some mummy and baby time you both enjoy and try not to worry about it - what works for one family doesn't always work for another.