I found my daughter's picture at my home on the web!!! What shall I do??

[lisa88]

HC,

I don't want my toddler's pics to be stored or found in the computer hard drives of paedophiles (that is if they ever get caught), paedophile sites or file-sharing/swapping sites. Fully clothed is one thing, naked is worse. The photos can be taken innocently by a well-meaning person such as my helper, it gets circulated and then finds its way online.

Unlike other posters, ownership of the pictures is not that important to me except when I want objectionable photos taken down.

 

[jvn]

Sorry Lisa88, what I meant by ownership is that you no longer have the rights to say what is done with the photos, so as I understand it fb could sell/give/reproduce those photos without needing your consent. I didn't mean ownership in a financial context although of course if you are a professional that would be an issue which I did bring up so that's probably what confused the issue.

 

[mummymoo]

HC, the risks from my perspective include: (as pointed out by jvn) potential thieves seeing valuables in your home which are inadvertantly seen in the photographs, pictures circulated to paedophiles, paedophiles contacting my helper after seeing my DC's pictures (and my helper not being saavy enough to work out what these people are up to).....there was a while back an 'experiment' done by some british journalist where she paid an IT company to find out as much as they could about her, and from her facebook, myspace pages and pictures they worked out the names of her family members, where she lived, where her parents lived (suburb only not actual address) and even where she holidayed through out the year.....I can't find the article although was racking my brains today.....but the risks of social networking sites are very real, although to be fair they also bring with them benefits.
At the end of the day, I prefer to be the one making decisions about posting my family's pics on the internet and taking the consequences when and if they arise, as opposed to having to deal with a problem after the fact, particularly when it is not of my doing.

 

[HappyNatali]

At the end of the day, I prefer to be the one making decisions about posting my family's pics on the internet and taking the consequences when and if they arise, as opposed to having to deal with a problem after the fact, particularly when it is not of my doing.[/QUOTE]

Exactly. that's the point. I entrust my helper to the privacy of my home. If she post a pic of my baby, she might as well post a silly picture my husband writes me... etc. I definitely don't want that to happen.

 

[Gracey]

Your helper did nothing illegal. In fact, she did nothing wrong. Maybe she was silly or naive not asking you first, but that's about it.

Simply tell her you want the photos down ASAP, and to never do it again, and that's the end of that. They will disappear from FB, along with the millions of other pix out there, and that nobody will know the difference. There's no need to panic about pedophiles, HK law, FB copyright issues or whatever.

Any of us are legally allowed to take photos of our homes and workplaces -- and your home is also her home / workplace. If I take a photo of our family reunion at my aunt's house and post it on FB, and my aunt is unhappy -- well, I'd take it down out of courtesy, but it's not like I've broken any law.

Anyway, just talk to her and don't worry about it.

 

[mamapanda]

Definitely agree with others that you should talk to your helper and lay out what's acceptable and what's not. She might not understand what's the big deal with posting a baby picture on the internet. Do explain to her that you're uncomfortable about it and that the virtual world is complicated. I find that in different cultures, definition of privacy and what's acceptable is very different. I just have my first helper for a month. One day, I came home from work, put my bag in the living room and went to my bedroom to get changed. When I came out I saw my helper going through my bag!! Only to find that she's looking for my ice-pack and expressed milk so she can put them in the fridge for me.