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Carang I really love the idea of going into a local filipino shop to get some treats.... or to even take them there! I have not seen one in Hong Kong. Which one do you go to? Yes, lets bring it back on track!
How to create a happy employer and helper relationship
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carang
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there are usually little shops dotted around hk. we live in sai kung and there must be 3 or 4. my kids LOVE to be able to pick out special treats for her and she really appreciates that we do it. my kids not only pick out the treats but when we get home, they each give them to her and say,
"thank you for taking good care of our family etc"
as a matter of fact, when we were teaching the kids about various occupations, we taught exactly that...she takes good care of our family.
we dont' do the sir/ma'am thing either... we do first names as well.
"thank you for taking good care of our family etc"
as a matter of fact, when we were teaching the kids about various occupations, we taught exactly that...she takes good care of our family.
we dont' do the sir/ma'am thing either... we do first names as well.
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LeahH - I love your post too. I also do the whiteboard idea - it really helps - we even do jokes or drawings ... which is funny.
We have a facebook account that her family is included in and we post to them regularly with photos.
I mark down dates in my diary that are important to her such as her mothers birthday, her father's anniversary, her anniversary with her partner. i put the appropriate ones on the board, help her send gifts off and send one of my own, understand the need for time and space on certain days and make her particular days special - such as birthday/ anniversary.On her birthday and anniversary she has a half day and I book her into have a massage. Our treat.
We have a facebook account that her family is included in and we post to them regularly with photos.
I mark down dates in my diary that are important to her such as her mothers birthday, her father's anniversary, her anniversary with her partner. i put the appropriate ones on the board, help her send gifts off and send one of my own, understand the need for time and space on certain days and make her particular days special - such as birthday/ anniversary.On her birthday and anniversary she has a half day and I book her into have a massage. Our treat.
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Black goes with white, yes?
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we've always tried to give our helper her birthday off as well. and usually $500 to get something for herself...
we also had her friend (who lives on the other side of hk, where we used to live) come to spend the night at our house. i bought them some shandys and rented a movie they wanted to see and they were happy to hang out but too shy to do it in the living room.
we also had her friend (who lives on the other side of hk, where we used to live) come to spend the night at our house. i bought them some shandys and rented a movie they wanted to see and they were happy to hang out but too shy to do it in the living room.
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That is really sweet Carang - We have our helper's friend's over for BBQs in the backyard sometimes - like for Christmas Parties, New Years etc. It is seriously so much fun. I make sure that she does not 'work' by cleaning up etc on these nights - It is just a time to have fun and enjoy life.
aussiegal - I think you need some perspective. All I am saying is that it is unreasonable to treat helpers in a heavy handed fashion, just because they are 'helpers'. Rules, fine - but edicts on when one may and may not talk on the phone/leave or enter the flat/ go out during their 'off' time is neither fair nor reasonable.
I find it amusing that you automatically assume that just because my helper has the freedom to make her own choices, that they are automatically 'bad' ones.......(and if everyone who ever had a drink in Wanchai was 'bad' then most of HK has no morals.......).
I am glad that you have a good relationship with your helper. But extremism goes both ways on the spectrum.
I find it amusing that you automatically assume that just because my helper has the freedom to make her own choices, that they are automatically 'bad' ones.......(and if everyone who ever had a drink in Wanchai was 'bad' then most of HK has no morals.......).
I am glad that you have a good relationship with your helper. But extremism goes both ways on the spectrum.