How old were you....

[geocup]

Hey everyone,

I've been in HK for 3 years now with my husband who has unfortunately just been made redundant. So, I will probably be going back to work teaching full time here instead of us going back to Australia....

Anyway, basically this means that I am now starting to get stressed as to 'when are we ever going to start a family?'. I am 33 and beginning to wonder if it will ever happen. I don't want to get much older before we do. How old were you when you had your first? Am I stressing too much?

Thanks!

 

[mumto2]

What does your husband think? I was 33 and had my first but really these days I know first time mums at 40 - it all depends on what you want I guess...

 

[Frenchy]

I was 38... so you see, no rush !

 

[carang]

i was 33 with #1 & 35 for #2

 

[karmah1]

I was 34 with my first....most of my friends were around this age too.

 

[joyofliving]

I was 30 with my first and will be 32 when I will be having my second.

 

[spockey]

I was one of the youngest mums at my mothers group in Oz - 31. Most of the were between 35-early 40s.

Though, ... u can still have a baby and be on a teaching salary with one parent staying at home As long as you've worked for 40 weeks on your teaching job... you'll receive your maternity rights. And you've found a supportive work environment.

We were raising a child on one teaching income for awhile. It was tight but we made it!

 

[carang]

it seems to me that many expats wait until "later" in life to have kids... maybe it's the whole idea of "living life fully first" then moving on to having a family.

many of my friends "at home" had kids MUCH earlier than i did.

 

[mumto2]

In australia the average age for the first time mother is 31...I was the youngest at 33 to have a baby out of all my friends...it seems to be getting later and later these days so no panic

 

[nicolejoy]

I'm 28 and had my first at 27. In Australia, many of my friends my age have already had kids - my best friend already has three!! But in Hong Kong, I'm one of the youngest out of everyone I know. I also notice that my husband's friends (he's Chinese) aren't even married yet - only a couple of them are married at 30!! I don't think there's a "right" time to have kids - it's just whatever works for you.