Shenzhennifer
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Before I had a baby, we both said 2. Then after our son was born and we fell in love, we said 3. He still says 3, but I`m still trying to get him to do more with the first one, so we`ll see if there`s even a second
How many kids would you want to have if you had a choice?
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Nashua852
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Three -- I'm waiting anxiously for number 2 to appear as this pregnancy hasn't been a bag of laughs. Both hubby and I are determined to adopt number three if we feel the itch for another baby; as we're both of very different races our families are happy taking on more colours so to speak!
I don't agree with you (it wasn't me). I said 2 and I have 3. That doesn't mean I love my "3rd" child any less than the others, it just means that if things had gone differently I wouldn't have 3 children. I would never tried to get pregnant for no. 3 (at least intentionally and I hope Mirena is doing its job). This person (assuming it's not a "troll" vote) may ideally not have wanted children, but things went differently. That doesn't mean she doesn't love her child any less than we do or that she wished she can "put her back".
carang
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i didn't say that it definitely meant they didn't love their child. i said, i HOPE that they hadn't. if a person really didn't want kids then had one, it COULD cause resentment towards the child. i would hate for the child to feel that.
i'm not accusing anyone of anything.
i'm not accusing anyone of anything.
No, I didn't say that, but I was just pointing out that just because things go differently in life, doesn't mean anything (negative).
WOW, ladies, thank you all for sharing your thoughts...I'm not at all surprised at the result so far---more people want to have three kids, exactly as what I observed back in Australia...But just as starbucks(if I remember correctly) mentioned, when you have three kids, how do you deal with one specific situation: when all of them want to be picked up at once? I often say to my hubby 'luckily we only have two, otherwise the third one might be standing there feeling disappointed/upset'...I could be wrong because one thing I've learned after having baby#2 is, we parents have endless love towards all our children...
Cara and Mom2Sofie&Twins, I think I understand both of you: Cara would hate to see any kids being unwanted by the parents(being such a good-hearted person herself); but Mom2Sofie&Twins also made a very valid point: some parents might be doing things differently for numerous reasons(which should be absolutely respected) if they could turn back the clock. I myself mainly struggle to see the pros and cons between having 2 and 3 children(which is the stage where I'm at)...Would love to hear more ladies' ideas on what prompt(ed) you to have 3 instead of being happy with just 2. As for those voted 4+, I think I got the point: the more the merrier!
Ladies, I also think I'd be more content to see 3 kids happily playing in my own grassy/tree lined backyard than here in HK...No offense intended. We came to HK with full knowledge that space is a problem...I'm just being homesick again I guess...:missu:
Cara and Mom2Sofie&Twins, I think I understand both of you: Cara would hate to see any kids being unwanted by the parents(being such a good-hearted person herself); but Mom2Sofie&Twins also made a very valid point: some parents might be doing things differently for numerous reasons(which should be absolutely respected) if they could turn back the clock. I myself mainly struggle to see the pros and cons between having 2 and 3 children(which is the stage where I'm at)...Would love to hear more ladies' ideas on what prompt(ed) you to have 3 instead of being happy with just 2. As for those voted 4+, I think I got the point: the more the merrier!
Ladies, I also think I'd be more content to see 3 kids happily playing in my own grassy/tree lined backyard than here in HK...No offense intended. We came to HK with full knowledge that space is a problem...I'm just being homesick again I guess...:missu:
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I posed this question to my hubby last night (thinking he wanted to stop at 2) and he said to me if there was no financial/space/time considerations he would go for 3 and consider 4.
I'm feeling exactly like you at the moment HK2008 - I would love to see 3 kids happily playing in my own grassy backyard (complete with home veggie patch!) than here in HK. I'm feeling terribly homesick as well - that makes 2 of us!
Hang in there!
Just keep in mind ... you could have twins the next time around 
... and you should be up for that one too. Mine came completely out of the blue (no meds, no family history, no nothing). But it's a fact that we're getting older and older when we have our children and chances for (fraternal, which is most common) twins go up once you get older (especially 35+, I was 33) and you go through more pregnancies.
Not to scare you, because it's great, but it's reality! So many twins here in HK!
I heard "one more" so many times ... ended up with "two more" ...
... and you should be up for that one too. Mine came completely out of the blue (no meds, no family history, no nothing). But it's a fact that we're getting older and older when we have our children and chances for (fraternal, which is most common) twins go up once you get older (especially 35+, I was 33) and you go through more pregnancies.Not to scare you, because it's great, but it's reality! So many twins here in HK!
I heard "one more" so many times ... ended up with "two more" ...