Oh thank you for all your replies, so helpful and quick!
Since I think the consensus is that I must confront her, this morning, I started the process by offhandedly asking her where my lipstick was. She said that she would look for it today. I also said before leaving for work that the living room smelled like pee, and she should open the window. Since my husband and I will both at work most of the day, we don’t want to get her upset when she is alone with my child. And she will also have 1 more day to clean the dust of her own accord.
We did consider whether her pee could be a medical issue, but I don’t think so. And it is pee because her pee is very sharp smelling, which smell I have unfortunately become quite familiar with lately. I think it is just lack of hygiene coz I went into her room and sniffed her pants a couple days ago. She has plenty of resources to wash since we freely let her use our laundry powder and machines! The thought of her sitting on our furniture and playing with my child while stained with pee just makes me sick too.
My helper used to take care of my grandmother, and she was quite loving to her, which is why I hired her. She is ok with my baby too. But her “track record” is not good – actually she borrowed quite a lot of money from my grandmother and now from me. She arrived from the Philippines to start working for me, having just borrowed HK$38,000 in the Philippines. I lent her the money to pay off her debt, since I basically could only choose from firing her (while heavily pregnant and about to give birth) or expecting that she would get the money from a loan shark with me unknowingly being her guarantor.
Since I think the consensus is that I must confront her, this morning, I started the process by offhandedly asking her where my lipstick was. She said that she would look for it today. I also said before leaving for work that the living room smelled like pee, and she should open the window. Since my husband and I will both at work most of the day, we don’t want to get her upset when she is alone with my child. And she will also have 1 more day to clean the dust of her own accord.
We did consider whether her pee could be a medical issue, but I don’t think so. And it is pee because her pee is very sharp smelling, which smell I have unfortunately become quite familiar with lately. I think it is just lack of hygiene coz I went into her room and sniffed her pants a couple days ago. She has plenty of resources to wash since we freely let her use our laundry powder and machines! The thought of her sitting on our furniture and playing with my child while stained with pee just makes me sick too.
My helper used to take care of my grandmother, and she was quite loving to her, which is why I hired her. She is ok with my baby too. But her “track record” is not good – actually she borrowed quite a lot of money from my grandmother and now from me. She arrived from the Philippines to start working for me, having just borrowed HK$38,000 in the Philippines. I lent her the money to pay off her debt, since I basically could only choose from firing her (while heavily pregnant and about to give birth) or expecting that she would get the money from a loan shark with me unknowingly being her guarantor.