I think you are right to be worried about her leaving you, not because her husband is coming to work in HK but because (just as you yourself have accused her of being less than forthcoming to you) you have advertantly or inadvertantly done the same thing to her. She signed up for a job looking after a family with 2 children, now unbeknownst to her you are planning to increase her work load by adding a third pregnancy/mom who can't do what she normally does --> third child to her workload.
Looking from the outside, your job is not one many helpers would want, and so if she leaves I don't think it's 100% due to her husband coming along (although this may contribute). It's because the job is really, really demanding (my guess) and probably warrants 2 helpers or more, so unless you are paying her the equivalent of 2 helpers......then......the package probably doesn't really add up for her.
On top of that is the implied demand that she doesn't have 24 hours off. Sure she hasn't formally asked you about having a full 24 hours off, BUT she probably doesn't want to confront you and make it nasty between you and her, when you keep giving her instructions to do xyz on sat and sunday nights.
Finally I don't think the posters here are out to attack you or be unkind but your posts do seem to be about me,me,me,me and show very little compassion (and joy) for a fellow woman and wife who may now finally get the chance to live in the same town as her husband (something you and I take for granted). I believe there is karma in this world. As Thanka2 suggest approaching situations with generosity usually pays its own rewards in the end.
Looking from the outside, your job is not one many helpers would want, and so if she leaves I don't think it's 100% due to her husband coming along (although this may contribute). It's because the job is really, really demanding (my guess) and probably warrants 2 helpers or more, so unless you are paying her the equivalent of 2 helpers......then......the package probably doesn't really add up for her.
On top of that is the implied demand that she doesn't have 24 hours off. Sure she hasn't formally asked you about having a full 24 hours off, BUT she probably doesn't want to confront you and make it nasty between you and her, when you keep giving her instructions to do xyz on sat and sunday nights.
Finally I don't think the posters here are out to attack you or be unkind but your posts do seem to be about me,me,me,me and show very little compassion (and joy) for a fellow woman and wife who may now finally get the chance to live in the same town as her husband (something you and I take for granted). I believe there is karma in this world. As Thanka2 suggest approaching situations with generosity usually pays its own rewards in the end.