Helper leaving for vacation!

[meimei]

Hi everyone,
My helper is leaving for vacation next week for 3 weeks. I'm just wondering if anyone has this experience before and can share what do we need to do to help my 1 year old baby thru this? She is quite attached to her since she takes care of her since birth. Should we make her say goodbye just briefly? I know my helper will miss her a lot, so she probably want to say goodbye for a long time. But i'm not sure if that will be more traumatic for my baby. Pls. advise!
Thanks!!!!!!!!

 

[kara23]

My helper took care of my 2 yr old since birth before going on her holiday for 2 weeks. I was also afraid my son would keep asking for her when she was away. Fortunately he did not even miss her! It was like he woke up one day and just accepted that she was not home. He happily played without her for the 2 weeks and when she came back, he was just as happy to see her. I think most of the time we adults underestimate young children's ability to adjust to changes in their daily lives.Don't worry! I am sure your child is just as happy (probably more!) to spend more time with mommy.

 

[mrs momo]

My helper is also going away for 4 weeks(. My main concern is what am I going to do with the cooking and cleaning. Normally I look after my 19mth old son while my helper do those chores or vice versa! Also my helper will do all the feedings as I have no patience to sit there for one hr for each meal (ie at least 3 hrs each day not including snacks). I think those 4 weeks will probably ruin my child's life as I will probably shout or hit my v.naughty 19mth old. What to do???? My mother has strictly said no to us going back to Aust!

 

[meimei]

Thanks kara23 for your sharing. That's good to hear!
Mrs. Momo, Can you find any part time helper or find a babysitter? My mom and her helper is going to come and help me during these 3 weeks. I know I can't cope with it all by myself. I have a friend whose mom flew over from Malaysia and helped her out when her maid was on vacation. So don't underestimate the work there's going to be! Good luck!

My helper is also going away for 4 weeks(. My main concern is what am I going to do with the cooking and cleaning. Normally I look after my 19mth old son while my helper do those chores or vice versa! Also my helper will do all the feedings as I have no patience to sit there for one hr for each meal (ie at least 3 hrs each day not including snacks). I think those 4 weeks will probably ruin my child's life as I will probably shout or hit my v.naughty 19mth old. What to do???? My mother has strictly said no to us going back to Aust!

 

[capital]

I am sorry but this thread is just too funny. My helper is on permanent vacation (in other words I don't have one) and I most certainly am able to cope, as will you. You are just not used to it, that is all. It shouldn't take your child an hour to eat, after 20-30 minutes it they still aren't eating, probably not hungry, take the food away and the meal is over. If your house is a mess for a few weeks, while you are adjusting to parenting alone, so be it. Some day it will be clean again. Just have low expectations, try to enjoy the time you have alone with your child.

 

[Matty]

Ha! I'm with you capital! Those of us without helpers manage just fine.

I guess it will be like those first few weeks after you bring the baby home from the hospital, it's a shock at first, but then you get used to it.

 

[aprilbaby]

I agree with Capital too. What happens if the helper is sick for one day....shock horror!!!! You would have to cope. This happened to a friend and she coundn't believe she had to look after the kids on her own and worse still make her own bed!!!

You'll both be fine and actually enjoy having your baby to yourself.

 

[Bumblebzz]

Not only is this thread funny...but equally pathetic.

Mrs Momo:

4 wks alone with your child ....
quote:
"probably shout or hit my v.naughty 19mth old"

I hope you're not serious.

 

[spockey]

I think those 4 weeks will probably ruin my child's life as I will probably shout or hit my v.naughty 19mth old. What to do???? My mother has strictly said no to us going back to Aust!

Amused and saddened by your remark and...

I agree with your mum. There's no such thing as a hired help as cheap as those from the Philippines/Indonesia/Thailand etc. So YOU WILL DEFINITELY not cope.
And... I don't know what the law states in HK but it's abuse to shout and hit a 19 month old bub who can't fend for him/herself.
:gl:

 

[meimei]

Wow, I'm sorry, I find you people too judgmental! Everybody is different, mrs momo is just being honest here, no need to judge her! I understand where she's coming from, does it make us a worse mom?? And I don't believe she'll actually hit her baby. My mom never took care of me when I was a baby. I had a nanny since birth, but I don't doubt that my mom is the best mom in the whole wide world. We love each other dearly!

Not only is this thread funny...but equally pathetic.

Mrs Momo:

4 wks alone with your child ....
quote:
"probably shout or hit my v.naughty 19mth old"

I hope you're not serious.