Frustrated with the helper

[JeremyValerie]

Hi all
It feels so good to ease some anger! We got rid of our helper 6 weeks ago, I thought I was going to 'kill' her. I was so irritated after a few weeks, I was dying to go back to work after my mat leave in order not to see her hiding in the kitchen do nothing, or walk so slowly in the house, etc.
Although I think she was a great help at the beginning when the baby was little (you know how new parents don't really dare or don't 'know' how to do some stuff), but she was absolutely useless at cleaning, and we also realised she didn't talk to the baby, she was just carrying her looking at the window. And she would always find excuses!
We just had enough when during the big easter weekend (followed by 10 days off a week later) she didn't even offer her help for an hour or 2.
We just sent her home with the month's pay, and hired a new one. We had to borrow helpers to cover, but we don't regret our decision, every one of them was so much better!

Whether we like it or not, they are such a big part of our lives and family that we need to be happy and not force ourselves to cope with a miserable situation. A bit like any other relationship I think....

 

[carang]

"Do you also think Filipina are better than Indonesian?"

come on... that is racist. that's like asking if you think chinese or western employers are better or worse...

nationalities don't matter! what matters is PERSONALITIES!

 

[Hunter]

Generally, Filippina DHs are more educated and more experienced, and they do have more common sense because of their background. I am not sure if you have experienced Indonesian DHs, but believe me, they can really really drive you nuts, at least my inlaw's are driving me nuts. They do their work without thinking, such as doing laundry when it is pouring out there, washing the dishes without making the dining table clear and clean first, etc etc....
This is really not about racism, but simply about their background. In general, Indonesian DHs are mostly coming from small villages, and yet Filippina DHs are usually from the cities. So, don't take me wrong.

 

[sandy0741]

Pls don't take me wrong as being racist when I asked this question, from what I hear about people commenting about their helpers, most of them think Filippina's are more experienced in all household work. I also think it's because they are more educated and as they come from the cities, they have more knowledge on how to use the household items and handle all the household matters. I have employed two indonesian maids so far, this is the second one, and she has really driven me nuts, she isn't good at cleaning, not ,listening to any instructions, even if you repeat several times, the only word she says is yes, but she will do a different thing for you. She will wear the same clothes for 2 days in this hot weather, you should imagine it's hot, and she has been doing the household work all day, she also needs to carry the baby sometime, but if she doesn't change clothes after she has been smelling, i think this is a big problem.