Calling for nursing mommies who are against CIO

My husband wants to sleep with us as well (But we find it highly unsafe to sandwich her between us), but does not want our daughter to be put away in a cot or separate bed. He wants her to sleep with me. On weekends they both nap together :)
 
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The one thing that I say to people who love to give me "advice" about co-sleeping and breast feeding... and basically anything that doesn't concern them :)

It's not a problem for us, so please don't make it a problem for you.

My husband and I both LOVE co-sleeping with our little girl. It took a while for us to learn how to make it work, but I was EBF and she nursed every 3-4 hours in the night those first few weeks...so we figured it out.

When she was teeny, she slept beside me with a bedrail (baby-me-daddy) so she didn't fall out, but now that she is bigger (nearly 1! where did that year go?) she does sleep between us. Hubs is so used to her being there that my previously thrashing guy hardly moves at night. We frequently discuss how much we would miss her cute morning wake ups and cuddles and those middle of the night moments. If it's an issue that comes between you and your husband, you need to discuss it with him, of course, but otherwise, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, even if they should keep it to themselves a bit more, and you need to just do what works for you and your family.
 
We co-sleep.

It was actually my husband's idea; he co-slept with his parents until he was SIX, althouh he wasn't breastfed. I used to think babies ought to go to sleep by themselves, in their own room and learn to self soothe and be independent etc etc. I was totally against co-sleeping. It seemed weird and dangerous to me.

Then our baby was born. He started off sleeping next to us in a snuggle nest in a moses basket. I'm a working mother and I found nightime feeds easier if I brought Bubba into bed with us. When he was really little I used to put the snuggle nest into our bed. Now he's 8 months old and we are still co-sleeping.

When I hear opposing voices (not in my head!), I worry that I'm doing the right thing. I did research both for and against co-sleeping and I find this website to be useful. It reminds me why I believe in what I'm doing and that I should trust my instinct as a mother. Welcome to Attachment Parenting International
This is our way, it might not be the best way for everybody but it's the best way for us. It works for our family.

As for my husband? Well he since I've known him he's always fallen asleep by himself just fine. He can sleep ANYWHERE, without the aid of a pacifier, a blankie or a breast. And for those that wonder when do parents who co-sleep get to have their alone time; where there's a will there's a way and it's not a problem. :haha:
 
Sorry, I read the 10 reasons and most of them are either defending co-sleeping, not giving reasons, or else they are making it seem like your child is in danger if they DON`T co-sleep.
I`m neither for nor against it, but I think there are a lot better reasons than `protecting your baby against sexual abuse` or to help it breathe again if it stops.
My baby sleeps in the same room with us, but not the same bed. Though with our tiny room and thus tiny bed, it would be next to impossible. I envy the parents with roomy beds enough to co-sleep with their baby:)
 
Our baby was pretty much in his cot in his own room from day one (although his room was adjoining our room). We generally don't have him in our bed because he is such as noisy little wriggler that we can't sleep and we both work (so undisturbed sleep is really important to us). Recently we went on holiday and I specifically booked a room with a king sized bed. We all slept together in the big bed every night and loved it. I had a nap every afternoon to catch up on the sleep I missed the night before. Bliss!
 
A BIG thank you to everyone for your encouragement and support.

I DO LOVE cosleeping, and frankly i'm not having any problems in that. I'd love to cosleep with her for as long as SHE wants to, as i read, this is just a small part of their life. The part that gets to me is the "sleeping without the breast" part.

Freddiebiscuit
Yes, my gal still wakes up several times a night. Minimum around 1-2times a night. If i'm VERY VERY lucky, she'd sleep thru till about 6ish in the morning. That has only happened 3-4 times since she was born till now.

Katelynbb
When u weaned ur bb at 12 mths, and u said she took it well during bedtimes, she didnt cry at all? My gal knows its bedtime, when i asked if she wants to sleep, she'll nod her head happily, but when not offered the breast, she'll scream bloody murder. LOUDLY. Since birth, she's a loud baby, she'll expressed her unhappiness by crying violently and loudly. It's hard to hush and calm her down (except to give in and give the breast) when she's all wriggling and crying. No amount of hugs or cuddles can pacify her. We tried that. I tried the CIO, well not exactly CIO cos i was right next to her on our bed, twice. Both times, i didnt give in becos she was already crying so bad and i didnt want her to think that as long as she cried so hard and loud, next time Mommy is gonna give in, so i had to persevere and held her in my arms and she cried (pitifully, along with me as well) for about 10-15mins, before going to sleep. Both times were becos she was nibbling at my breast so much it started feeling sore as i was having my AF. But the last time it happened, i cried so badly listening to her crying that i swore i'm never gonna let her cry like this anymore.

Which is why i'm wondering if babies do learn to just *snap fingers* sleep on their own like that ONE DAY without any training from the mommies. Without cryings, nothing. DO THEY??? After so many months of sleeping with a nipple in the mouth, do they REALLY just one day, MIRACULOUSLY do not NEED the breast to sleep anymore?
 
And yes, i'm also thinking and planning to have a #2, cannot imagine how i'm going to cope "logistically" if i still need to nurse #1 AND #2 at the same time. The mere thought of it is scaring me!

I would love to (and dont mind at all) continue nursing my gal until she weans (or at least when she's 2yrs old) during the daytime, it's the night wakenings that's bothering me.
 
you will most likely have to wean #1 before #2 comes along.... at least that would be what I would assume, maybe there is someone out there that can clarify this, have they ever BF two babies differing in age? (ie. not twins)
 
gentlemom said:
A BIG thank you to everyone for your encouragement and support.


Katelynbb
When u weaned ur bb at 12 mths, and u said she took it well during bedtimes, she didnt cry at all? My gal knows its bedtime, when i asked if she wants to sleep, she'll nod her head happily, but when not offered the breast, she'll scream bloody murder. LOUDLY. Since birth, she's a loud baby, she'll expressed her unhappiness by crying violently and loudly. It's hard to hush and calm her down (except to give in and give the breast) when she's all wriggling and crying. No amount of hugs or cuddles can pacify her. We tried that. I tried the CIO, well not exactly CIO cos i was right next to her on our bed, twice. Both times, i didnt give in becos she was already crying so bad and i didnt want her to think that as long as she cried so hard and loud, next time Mommy is gonna give in, so i had to persevere and held her in my arms and she cried (pitifully, along with me as well) for about 10-15mins, before going to sleep. Both times were becos she was nibbling at my breast so much it started feeling sore as i was having my AF. But the last time it happened, i cried so badly listening to her crying that i swore i'm never gonna let her cry like this anymore.

Which is why i'm wondering if babies do learn to just *snap fingers* sleep on their own like that ONE DAY without any training from the mommies. Without cryings, nothing. DO THEY??? After so many months of sleeping with a nipple in the mouth, do they REALLY just one day, MIRACULOUSLY do not NEED the breast to sleep anymore?
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Hi gentlemom,
My daughter really did just fall asleep. I was SO surprised. But she was also a very calm and laid back baby. She would never cry for food or cry if she didn't get it in time. The only time I had problems with sleeping was during her daytime naps, but she made it up by being a terrific night time sleeper and sleeping 12 hrs. I never really trained her, I thought I was going to have to, but it just worked out. I did give her milk to substitute the breastmilk after I weaned, maybe that made her really sleepy. (sorry don't really have an answer on how I was able to do it) It just worked out for us.
With my second daughter, I can kind of tell with her personality that she would be a bit harder to wean off the breast and sleeping on her own. So I'm probably going to have to ask you later on what to do. =)
 
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