Baby wakes up - shud I feed her??

[fennho]

adahc
i bought the Adiri bottle and MAM bottle (both claims to be very breast-like feeding). I tried the Adiri, she rejected it as well. But i havent try the MAM yet though. My baby has got reflux so any amount of crying makes it worse...so i'm very mindful of minimising her cries...maybe some people will say i'm spoiling her, but oh well, it pains me to see her cry...and i'm so tired of trying. I do think of how i'm going to wean her in the future to bottles...is it gonna be more difficult?

Talking about sleep...i know babies of their age needs apprx 14-15hours a day....any idea, when is it going to change (as in lesser)?? Is there a guide somewhere i can refer to?

 

[fennho]

Oh btw, i havent got the chance to meet up with new mommies yet. But Discovery bay is far! I live in Kowloon West, jus right above Elements.

 

[adahc]

Fennho,
My baby also got reflux. Jesus they are similar arn't they?
Try MAM bottle. I find that we have to be strong sometime which does help. They have strong will,,,babies this age.
I think they sleep 14-15 hours now and then gradually gone down from 6 months or so. All I know from reading somewhere (not sure it is the best source) on the net is that at 9 months they will have an ability to force themselves to stay awak if they want to.which I dread.
So I think you might want to start some gentle routine now.
I'm not really for the control crying and all though. But a gentle routine of putting him to bed when he is 'almost' gone to sleep is an art in itself and it helps. Must try.
I also put him in the cot and let him play with his toys (or me) just an hour before bed time, dim all the light and speak in acalm voice help a bit too. Might not help on the first day or two but it helps him gettting used to the idea of bedtime and feel safe in his cot.
That's what I am doing right now.

 

[LLL_Sarah]

If when you baby wakes up she will go back to sleep by herself then I?d let her to that.

If, however, by leaving her she will wake herself up completely then I?d quickly feed her back to sleep. Generally if a baby wakes up but is still very sleep they only need a few minutes of feeding to get them to sleep again. This means that everyone?s sleep is disturbed only slightly. If the baby gets to the crying stage it tends to mean a much long feed to settle the baby down again.

This is one of the beauties of breastfeeding ? that it gets the baby to sleep ? use it to your advantage.

Best wishes,
SARAH

 

[bekyboo44]

My son was fed to sleep (breastfeeding) until he was 10 months old. It basically meant he didn't go to sleep by himself, or sleep through the night until he was ten months old.
Was pretty tough at times but what he needed, which is why we did it.
I tried everything to get him to sleep by himself before then but nothing worked....and then he did it by himself when he weaned himself!!

 

[mama-to-be]

My little girl also needs to be nursed to sleep and she's now 11 months old. However for the past 3 weeks or so she's been sleeping thru the night (with the exception of a couple of nights). Also I noticed recently when I put her down at night after nursing her she doesn't fall asleep immediately and I can hear her make some noise thru the baby monitor. She eventually falls asleep in 10-15 mins.

 

[fennho]

bekyboo44
thnks for sharing...it's comforting to know they will eventually learn to fall asleep by themselves without me forcing them to any "sleep solutions" marketed out there...i just cant or rather dont have the heart to.

AG2007
when u say your gal "make some noise" was it crying? Or just babbling? tks for sharing too.

 

[mama-to-be]

She's mainly babbling. Sometimes she does cry softly and I leave her for a couple of minutes. But if the cry becomes stronger I go back in to comfort her. I can't stand hearing her cry!!!!

 

[fennho]

My son was fed to sleep (breastfeeding) until he was 10 months old. It basically meant he didn't go to sleep by himself, or sleep through the night until he was ten months old.
Was pretty tough at times but what he needed, which is why we did it.
I tried everything to get him to sleep by himself befe then but nothing worked....and then he did it by himself when he weaned himself!!

Bekyboo
when u said he suddenly did it by himself, do u mean one fine day he suddenly just go to sleep by himself without u nursing him? Can u explain how it happened? Thks!

 

[barbwong_130]

Dear Fennho,

I recommend that you join some of the la Leche League meetings in Hong Kong. At the meetings you will be able to find lots of mothers who don?t like the idea of letting their babies cry and how they cope with life.

You?ll also find mothers there with babies of many different ages. I liked going because there were a couple of mothers with babies a bit older than mine and so I always knew what to expect next.

Children do learn to sleep longer as they grow older ? with or without your help. I fed all mine to sleep and they all sleep through the night now. For mime it didn?t happen all at once. First they would sleep all night occasionally and then after a month or two they?d mange to sleep two or three nights a week without waking up and finally they?d only wake up if something had upset them in the daytime and now they sleep through no matter what.

Barb