Am I stuck with my OBGYN?

[SLPmom]

I am seeing a very well regarded OBGYN in central and I absolutely despise him. He has horrible bed side manner, pressured me to consider terminating a pregnancy before the test results came back for a condition I ended up not having, allowed his 5 year old son to walk into our exam room during my appointment (I was mostly covered but unclothed) and did not apologize, and has been overall unsupportive and truly unkind during a difficult pregnancy. Every time I speak to him or see him I feel more depressed.

I would really like to switch doctors, but being 12 weeks along, I am under the impression that no other private doctor will take me. I have considered separating from my husband for the next 6 months to move back to the United States, in order to see a different doctor.

Am I stuck with my current doctor or does anyone know of other private doctors taking new patients.

Thanks so much.

 

[2010-NewDad]

You should have no problem finding a better obgen. One issue is the hospital booking, which may not be transferable. You need to choose between the stress of seeing this guy vs. the stress of changing bookings. 12 weeks doesn't sounds too late to find a new obgen to me!

 

[sfolola]

I don't see any reason why you can't change doctors, unless your hospital booking for delivery is dependent on him. I have traveled all through my pregnancy and seen OB-GYN's in 3 cities. It's really important to feel comfortable with your doctor.

 

[charade]

It sounds like you need to switch doctors. I don't think 12 weeks is too far along. I think there would be less popular doctors who would take you on.

If you're delivering in a public hospital and just seeing this doctor for support, then you have lots of possibilities.

If you're delivering private and booked the hospital through this doctor then maybe a little trickier. Nevertheless, my understanding would be that the booking is made in your name so you would need to see which other doctors deliver at that hospital, check which of them can take you (you can explain you have a hospital booking already but would like to switch doctors) and go from there. I think there was a thread in a past about keeping the hospital booking but switching doctors at Mathilda. I'm sure it's possible.

 

[SLPmom]

Thank you for the replies. I was told by my current Dr.'s office that they handle the booking (Matilda) and I didn't know any better to try and make the booking on my own. I have called them every week including today (as I put the request in 9 weeks ago) and they said they still don't have a confirmed bed for me.

I called Lucy Lord's office and they will see me but made it clear I probably won't get a hospital bed and Patrick Chan's office told me they won't see me because all of his beds are filled for December and January. I don't need to deliver in a private hospital (though I would prefer it) but am having a complicated pregnancy so I am worried about choosing a less popular doctor.

I will continue to call every doctor I can find but I think I may just have to move home :/

Again, thanks so much for the replies.

 

[2010-NewDad]

There are plenty of competent obgens, in both the public and private system. There is really no need to go back to America to give birth - try not to worry! The fact you don't have a confirmed booking makes it easier too, you have far less barriers to switching doctors.

I would think the stress of moving, and being away from your husband is very much a last resort, not something that needs to be considered at this stage.

 

[charade]

Though I can understand not wanting to go from Matilda (if that's what you can afford) to public. But I would keep trying, calling all docs. Have you tried Dr. Ghosh? (he's also one of the busy ones, but I would just do the rounds before giving up).

 

[Honkyblues]

Dr Ghosh is excellent - and I bet he can get you a bed at the Matilda.

 

[howardcoombs]

I will continue to call every doctor I can find but I think I may just have to move home :/

An alternate suggestion : call (or visit) the hospital itself and ask them if they have a good doctor to recommend and a bed at the same time. Many of the private hospitals will have a list. Try Canossa, Sanitorium, StPauls and many more. Matilda is a busy&expensive place but certainly not the only place...

Complicated pregnancy == popular doctor : I dont see why you should equate the 2. Not knowing your complication, I cannot say for sure, but in general, complicated cases are better handled at the public hospitals.

As for leaving home : That sounds like stress doing the talking. In between the doctor and hospital calls, consider some massage and/or pampering session of some sort so you can relax a bit. Relaxation is good for mummy and baby.

 

[2010-NewDad]

If it is any help, here is a list of obgens from my healthcare provider here. We used Dr Jennie Ng for my wifes ante-natal checks and delivery and she was fine - professional, experienced and competent

Dr. Tsui Hang Yuet Michelle 徐行悅醫生
MBBS(Queensland), FHKCOG, MRCOG, FHKAM(Obs
& Gynae)
Premier Medical Centre
Suite 707, 718-733, Central Building, 1-3 Pedder
Street, Central
中環畢打街1-3號中建大厦7樓707, 718-733室
Tel: 3723-3098

Dr. So Wai Ki William 蘇偉基醫生
MB BS (HK), FHKCOG, FRCOG, FHKAM(Obs &
Gynae)
Premier Medical Centre
Suite 707, 718-733, Central Building, 1-3 Pedder
Street, Central
中環畢打街1-3號中建大厦7樓707, 718-733室
Tel: 3723-3098

Dr. Ferguson Sally 方莎莉醫生
MB BS(Ncle), MRCOG, FHKAM(O&G)
Owens, Trodd & Partners
Room 1501 - 1503, Shui On Centre, 8 Harbour Road,
Wanchai
灣仔港灣道8號瑞安中心1501-1503室
Tel: 2824-9112

Dr. Chan Leung Kwok Clement 陳亮國醫生
MBBS (HK), FHKCOG (HK), FRANZCOG, FRCOG,
MD (Singapore), FHKAM(O&G)
Room 702, Manning House, 38 Queen's Road
Central, Central
中環皇后大道中38號萬年大廈702室
Tel: 3113-3232

Dr. Cheung Cheuk Yuen Catherine 張灼源醫生
MB BS(HK), FRCOG(UK), MRCOG(Eng),
FHKAM(O&G)
Rm 1203, Cosco Tower, Grand Millennium Plaza,
183 Queen's Road Central, Sheung Wan
上環皇后大道中183號新紀元廣場中遠大廈1203室
Tel: 2545-3333

Dr. Ng Ching Wah Jennie 伍菁華醫生
MBBS (HK), FHKCOG, MRCOG, FHKAM(O&G)
Room 1318, Melbourne Plaza, 33 Queen's Road,
Central
中環皇后大道中33號萬邦行1318室
Tel: 2523-6888

Dr. Tang Yuen Chiu 鄧遠釗醫生
MBBS (HK), FHKCOG, FRACOG, MRCOG,
FHKAM(O&G)
Room 801, Hang Shing Bldg., 363-373 Nathan Road,
Yau Ma Tei
油麻地彌敦道363 - 373號恆成大廈801室
Tel: 2780-0655, 2740-9225

Dr. Chai Hei Lam Anita 蔡曦琳醫生
MB BS (HK), MHKCOG, MRCOG, FHKAM(O&G)
Ken Lee Medical Centre (Central)
仲堅醫療中心 (中環)
Room 1103-4, Melbourne Plaza, 33 Queen's Road
Central, Central
中環皇后大道中33號萬邦行1103-4室
Tel: 2787-0221

Ken Lee Medical Centre
仲堅醫療中心
Room 1825-1827, Argyle Centre Phase 1,688
Nathan Road, Mongkok
旺角彌敦道688號旺角中心第1期1825-1827室
Tel: 2787-0222

Dr. Poddar Nises Chandra 布特理醫生
MB BS(Calcutta), D Obst RCOG(Eng), FRCOG,
MRCOG, FHKAM(O&G)
Owens, Trodd & Partners
5/F, Century Square, 1D' aguilar Street, Central
中環德己立街1號世紀廣場5樓
Tel: 2521-3181