Nicole... my son has just turned 3 too. Would love to know the names of some apps you mentioned. at the moment his ipod is mostly being used to watch toons on youtube. which we dont mind coz he doesnt use it for long but would be great to upload something more interactive for him. Thanks.
Some that she likes that are phonics based are:
Word Wagon by Duck Duck Moose - this one has four different levels so is good for a wide range of ages
Starfall ABCs (although this is a paid app which is exactly the same as the free webpage. If you love the webpage, it's worth it, but if you don't, then not worth it)
ABC Tracing is good for practice writing
Pre-K ABC by BrightStart is even better - it's a GREAT app for learning to write and does a bit of phonics as well. This is one of my favs, definitely recommend!
Phonics Vowels by Abitalk is great for phonics and not too advanced for my daughter - very good for pre-reading or early reading
Word Match is good for those sight words, but it still a bit hard for my 3 year old
Short Vowels by Abatalk (not sure if it's the same as "Abitalk"??) - this one my daughter doesn't play with as much, but it's ok
If I only recommended three, it would be Word Wagon, Pre-K ABC and Phonics Vowels
Completely off subject, her absolute favourite (and non educational) app is called "My PlayHome" - it's a fantastic app and great for her age.
And for maths skills, we got a GREAT app the other day called "LoveToCount" by Pirate Trio - they have a few other apps but this is the only one that we've got.
I follow a blog -
http://momswithapps.com/ - the ONLY reason why I read it is because they often have "free app friday" where you can get paid apps for free, or sometimes just at a discount. I've found SO many great apps that way - some I did pay for but the majority I didn't. I try to check it every Friday and if something is free, I download it and try it. If I like it, I keep it. If not, I just delete it.