3wk old goes w/o sleep for 6hrs a stretch!

[1stimemum]

hi all, i have to agree, some form of order in the house is necessary. luckily with this long w/e, husband has been around to help.

We have tried to observe baby more and read his cues better like the book says and things have improved slightly. well, at least yesterday, he only stay up 4hrs from in the morning.... baby steps...

One question, the version of Baby Whisperer i have is american and seems very short.. its doesnt explain how to get bubs to sleep once he's already very cranky and overstimulated or past the stage 3 sleep phase.
i missed the window so to speak.

Am i missing something in the reading? Possible as yes i'm still running on 4-6hrs sleep.

thanka2, at what age did your son start sleeping 12hrs a night? that sounds amazing right now.

 

[thanka2]

The first Baby Whisperer book that was written is usually a paperback. Then there is a bigger book that is actually meant for the toddler years, I think. The first book I read was probably about 170-200 pages and then I happened to pick up the toddler hard-cover book at a thrift store later.

I hate to discourage you, but our son didn't sleep through the night until he was about 5.5 months-old but I really think that a huge part of that is that we didn't know how to help him and we had no game plan except just surviving. I think that if we had known about the Baby Whisperer book sooner he could have easily been sleeping through the night by 3 months or before because he was advancing developmentally really fast--he was already sitting up on his own at 3 months so I think he would have been better at sleeping at night if we had only known what to do.

That's why I say--part of it is getting your baby on a schedule (or at least it was for us) but part of it is just enduring what you have to go through with some babies--some babies are just hard and don't sleep. Sure glad to hear your husband has been a good team mate for you!

 

[1stimemum]

i just have to update everyone and let this off my chest. Went to see doc yest for 1 mth check up and doc suspects baby is lactose intolerant. Hence crying for hours after a feed and not sleeping, staying up for 6 hours.

We tried a sample formula she gave yesterday and guess what, so far for the last 3 feeds, baby's gone to bed in a reasonable/ normal time frame.

I feel SO SO GUILTY and STUPID for not having checked with the doctor earlier, subjecting him to so much pain and discomfort. For a whole month, as I supplement about 2 -3 feeds a day with formula, he's been miserable the whole time. i'm such a bad mother.....

anyway i wanted to let everyone know so that maybe some other mum can learn from my mistake and silliness.

 

[Flack]

1st timemum,

You are not a bad mother for not suspecting this earlier. My baby is lactose intolerant also and it wasn't diagnosed until two months when she had blood in her nappy. She is now on lactose free formula and a much happier baby.
I'm sure the doctor told you that there is lactose intolerance (which is quite rare) and will require your baby to have no dairy products ever and also there is transient lactase deficiency which is far more common and most babies will grow out of and be able to tolerate dairy later in life. There is heaps of information on this on the internet of you have time for a quick google.
Hopefully your baby is better now.

 

[LLL_Sarah]

Why are we as mothers so quick to say we are bad?

Your story leaves me with the feeling that you are a good mother not a bad one. You recognized a problem and then went about trying to find answers to that problem. Yes, it took you a while to find an answer you are happy with but you carried on worrying and looking for an answer until you found it.

This will actually be good training for the future. So often children's problems aren't immediately solvable and as a mother patience and perseverance seems to be what we need to find solutions.

So pat yourself on the back and enjoy the fact that a solution has been found.

Best wishes,
SARAH