3month old still won't sleep

Dr. Harvey Karp has a DVD and book called "The Happiest Baby on the Block" that has worked WONDERS for my daughter. I promise I am not affiliated with him. Try you tubing him to get an idea of his methods. It really works!
 
Research shows that babies usually spend the first part of the night in deeper sleep, and the second part in much lighter sleep. So its quite normal for babies to wake up every sleep cycle during the second part of the night, often from 2 or 3 am onwards (note: a babies' sleep cycle is around 45 mins vs. 90 mins for adults). During these lighter phases of sleep there is much more blood-flow to the brain, which some baby sleep experts say is actually positive for development and nerve growth etc. Doesn't feel so positive for mama though at 3am, then 4am, then 5am!

So its up to every mama to decide whether to let this natural situation be, and pass on its own, or whether to implement some form of sleep training. I guess that mostly depends on circumstances and mama's sleep needs, especially if she is working.

I found the lack of sleep in the wee hours a bit distressing in the early weeks, but I didn't feel comfortable with trying any sleep training. So we then happily and cosily popped our little guy in bed with us. He still wakes in the wee hours but only very briefly, he just checks we are there, might have a quick feed, then back to sleep. We all get much more sleep this way! Co-sleeping (when done as per the safety guidelines) also reduces the risk of SIDS, this helped me to relax at night as I wasn't worrying about him. http://nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/

Good luck with whatever road you choose, and take comfort in the fact that when you're awake in the wee hours looking up at the moon, so many other mother's are looking up at the same moon too..

:)
 
I don't know about looking at the moon...usually I have my eyes closed!! My son was the perfect sleeper from day 1 (now nearly 3 years old), and apart from the first 3 months he's only ever woken us up during the night maybe 10 times!
However....my daughter is now 11 months old and has only slept the entire night about 10 times! First she had gas/reflux issues. Then her first tooth came at 4 months, and they kept coming! Now she already has 12! Then when we started solids she wasn't taking in much during the day and resorted to eating at night! Just when you think you've got it all sorted, you get a really stormy night like last night (we live next to the sea) and she was awake again!!! I've decided she'll grow out of it when she's ready. I don't enjoy getting up nearly every night, but there's not much more I can do. And they're not babies for a long time. Soon WE'LL be the ones awake at night waiting for them to come home!
 
Hehe yep Mariaindb so true! Or we'll have to actually wake them up in the morning to get ready for school :)
 

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