Girls are so much harder. I have a 4 year old boy who is so easy and a 2 year old girl and she has been challenging from the get go. She is stubborn, mood and has so much attitude already. I am terrified for the teenage years. I phycholigist friend of mine says she has enough "personality" for three kids.
Which is more "high-maintenance" --boy or girl?
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nicolejoy
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I like that quote
When I had a daughter last year, my Dad told me "Girls are definitely harder, much more complex, much more emotional and less rational - but the emotional rewards are much greater too". That's his perspective on it.
karmah1
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Oh so true....my son is only 11 months old and so far he has broken our BOSE sounddock and one of my necklaces, we have teeth marks in the furniture and numerous stains in the carpet from spilt milk and food...what is next??
In my case, it's my girl who has caused the more "damage" -- marks on the wall, table, floor, TV(!), wrecked toys, tore pages off books, etc. I don't know if it's the second child "look at me" syndrome. But what nicolejoy's dad said about the emotional rewards being greater? I find that SO true. Z can be SO, SO naturally sweet in ways that my boy never was at the same age. I think they are just wired naturally that way. 
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bridiemexico
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I have twins, boy/girl. My boy is more demanding and less independant but when my girl explodes she really explodes. She is still a lot easier than he is. I do agree that she might be a handful as a teenager!
I personally think it's more about individual personality than gender.
I don't think "high maintenance" is the right term to describe my son--he was and is high energy which meant more work for me but when I think of "high maintenance" I think of a child who is fussy and hard to content. My son was just very busy and so required a lot of energy to play with. He wasn't a great sleeper until he was six months old but I think that was partly our doing as we only finally got a clue about how to put him on a schedule--then he was and still is a great sleeper. This has a lot to do with us maturing in our parenting skills, I think. My son has an entertainer's personality--he loves to laugh and make others laugh--and at nearly 4-years-old he's just starting to understand how to play practical jokes on people so we'll have an interesting future ahead with him, I'm sure.
My daughter has a very quiet personality. She is very watchful and was an "angel baby"-sleeping through the night only a couple of weeks after she was born. We didn't really have to work at scheduling her like we did with our son. Maybe she just fell into our routine more easily since we already had one established. Now she's 8-months-old and she's pulling up on furiture and getting into everything. I can see the active streak her brother also has coming out but she's just more mellow than he was and is.
But, none of this I credit to him being a boy and her being a girl. Because, as a child I was just as active as my son is and my younger brother was way more passive and quiet.
I don't think "high maintenance" is the right term to describe my son--he was and is high energy which meant more work for me but when I think of "high maintenance" I think of a child who is fussy and hard to content. My son was just very busy and so required a lot of energy to play with. He wasn't a great sleeper until he was six months old but I think that was partly our doing as we only finally got a clue about how to put him on a schedule--then he was and still is a great sleeper. This has a lot to do with us maturing in our parenting skills, I think. My son has an entertainer's personality--he loves to laugh and make others laugh--and at nearly 4-years-old he's just starting to understand how to play practical jokes on people so we'll have an interesting future ahead with him, I'm sure.
My daughter has a very quiet personality. She is very watchful and was an "angel baby"-sleeping through the night only a couple of weeks after she was born. We didn't really have to work at scheduling her like we did with our son. Maybe she just fell into our routine more easily since we already had one established. Now she's 8-months-old and she's pulling up on furiture and getting into everything. I can see the active streak her brother also has coming out but she's just more mellow than he was and is.
But, none of this I credit to him being a boy and her being a girl. Because, as a child I was just as active as my son is and my younger brother was way more passive and quiet.
I have a girl and then boy/girl twins. I wouldn't call any of my children high maintenance because they're all fairly easy, not perfect but very good, in general. My boy was the worst when he was little but he's very easy now. My twin girl is very outgoing and extravert but not difficult. If I look around me, it's usually boys who seem higher maintenance. We all have our issues with our children but if I look at mine at the end of the day and compare with what I see around me, I realize I am quite lucky. Their teachers also never mentioned any major issues. Again, they're not perfect, but definitely not high maintenance.
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