Developing childrens' thinking skills--how do you do it?

[carang]

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[AmyH]

I find that his personality is quite sensitive. My husband's approach is that he wants to "toughen him up" but I'm not sure if I agree so much with that. But, I also would like to help him not be so affected or sensitive to difficult situations. I was the same type of child--but part of that was from the home I grew up in--when I was young, my home life was very difficult and so I "wore my heart on my sleeve".

My son was like this and would get really upset over trivial things. He was always a follower in the playground and would be easily lead to playing games that he didn't want to, rather than speak up and suggest alternatives.
We decided that to give him some confidence we would enroll him in tai kwan do lessons. This has helped him a lot. He is quite small and skinny for his age and I fear that if he lacked confidence he could get bullied quite badly but since he started taking the lessons his confidence has soared.

 

[carang]

we've put our boy into tae kwan do at school, too.

 

[thanka2]

My son was like this and would get really upset over trivial things. He was always a follower in the playground and would be easily lead to playing games that he didn't want to, rather than speak up and suggest alternatives.
We decided that to give him some confidence we would enroll him in tai kwan do lessons. This has helped him a lot. He is quite small and skinny for his age and I fear that if he lacked confidence he could get bullied quite badly but since he started taking the lessons his confidence has soared.

Thank you for sharing your story AmyH. My son is actually really outgoing. When we've gone to speak with his teacher about how he's doing in school she has said that he is very popular because he's kind, patient and a team player. I've seen that with my own eyes too. On a recent class trip every few minutes I'd hear his named called by one of his school-mates--everyone thinks he's funny and a he's one of the "cool kids"--most want to play with him. He's really sensitive toward the needs of others and tends to like to help out. He's not a pushy kid. He is and always has been quite gentle with others. As a toddler when others would take the toy he was playing with he rarely cried or got upset--he was always laid-back about it. He "takes a beating" from his younger sister who is only 18-months-old and he never retaliates but simply tells her, "Gentle...be gentle."

He also is very active in sports as my husband plays sports a lot (he plays on an intramural rugby team as well as a soccer team) and also plays with him (he plays rugby with dadda a lot). He's taken Tae Kwon Do, Basketball, Soccer, Gymnastics, Swimming and most recent Kick Boxing. He really loves Kick Boxing. So, I think he does well when playing sports.

He cries easily sometimes, though. Not while playing sports. He has really good confidence while playing sports and he is well-liked by his friends and teammates. He's 4.5-years-old and at least 115 cm tall now so he's one of the tallest boys in his class, if not the tallest. He's not timid at all and instead is an entertainer. But, hurtful words from others or when he senses something isn't fair can really upset him.