Desperate for advice PLEASE

Do your husbands miss out on seeing the kids in the evening? Or do they spend time w each other in the mornings?
 
we are lucky as daddy works from home, although, one of his busy times during the day is bedtime for the kids. so, i have always put them to bed and daddy goes in to quickly tuck them in when he's finished walking all of the dogs.
 
That's v lucky cara. My husband gets depressed if he doesn't see the little man for 24 hours, which sometimes happens if he is super busy. Their bond has grown from strength to strength since our second LO was born. In turn I've felt my bond with him has weakened and that is creating issues with me, but that's a topic for another day :(
 
I agree that the problem could be that he is overtired so earlier bedtime could help.

I have a 3 year old who has had far more noisy nights than quiet ones in his life. Either nightmare, night terror or just night time fussing, not being able to get back to sleep. Very recently it got worst until a couple nights back when I put the aircon on and he has slept much better since. We do also sleep in the same room (not same bed) and are having trouble changing that.

Good luck, let us know how you do!
 
We do Daddy time in the morning. Evenings with Daddy don't help the night as Daddy will arrive just as LO is ready for bed and it excits him and delays the whole routine. But it's easy in the morning since LO gets up before 6am and Dad does not have to go to work until 8am.
 
That's v lucky cara. My husband gets depressed if he doesn't see the little man for 24 hours, which sometimes happens if he is super busy. Their bond has grown from strength to strength since our second LO was born. In turn I've felt my bond with him has weakened and that is creating issues with me, but that's a topic for another day :(

My husand gets to spend time with the children in the mornings and on weekends. He leaves central to get home here (gold coast) at 8pm so arrives in at 8:40 ish. My daughter (2) goes to bed at 7 and my son (7) goes to bed at 7:30 - 8:00 pm. It can be hard on my husband, but on the rare occasions when he gets home early (7 pm) my daughter gets so excited to see him, wont go to bed and knocks her routine!
 
Has his diet changed at all over the past 5 months? Reason I mention it is now my son has started proper food, we've discovered he has quite a bad intolerance to cows milk which resulted in him having very bad cramps at night, with him waking up screaming in agony (his father has just recently been diagnosed with the same hence we thought to check for it - had just put it down to teething etc). Since cutting out/changing to goat yoghurt etc, he's been much much better. I'm not sure if it's something that can develop at a later age too. Worth a look if the routine change doesn't help maybe?
 
My husand gets to spend time with the children in the mornings and on weekends. He leaves central to get home here (gold coast) at 8pm so arrives in at 8:40 ish. My daughter (2) goes to bed at 7 and my son (7) goes to bed at 7:30 - 8:00 pm. It can be hard on my husband, but on the rare occasions when he gets home early (7 pm) my daughter gets so excited to see him, wont go to bed and knocks her routine!

Same here. My husband never sees the children during the week, sometimes in the morning. Never in the evening. It has always been like that. It's not great for my husband but it's what's best for our children. We benefit from the fact that we have well-rested children, at school, in the weekend, at night ...
 
I don't think 8.30 pm is too late if your son has generally being going to bed at that time and he doesn't seem tired at bedtime. Like me son used to go to bed at 7.30, then 8 and now 8.30 but it's never after 9. But the delay was a natural progression, not us pushing it backward. Both my husband and I get about an hour with him before his bedtime.

You mentioned that your son might be affected by your second baby and that might be something to consider. I'm surprised how sensitive even very young children are to this emotional stuff. My husband went back home for a short trip during Easter and it coincided with the departure of my in-laws who were also visiting. Ever since they left, my son started waking up at night a couple of times crying. But since my husband got back, it's stopped.
 

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