Miscarriage

[Matty]

Hi Jane,

I've sent you a PM.

Cheers,
Matty.

 

[turtle]

Hi Jane

I feel for you as have just had my second miscarriage in 4 months, first one was Dec 06 and I was 8 weeks 3 days and second was last week when I was 8 weeks 2 days.

My doctor is going to run tests so I don't yet have any answers, but he says that sometimes even after tests there might be no answers. Miscarriage is more common than people think, just about every SINGLE women I am friends with has had at least one.

I got pregnant one month after the first miscarriage, but it seems it was just too soon for my body. My doctor has assured me that it is nothing that I am eating or doing physically, it is just nature's way.

He has recommended a baby dose of aspirin for the next pregnancy, but he is talking about another pregnancy so we can try again. I am not giving many answers, but I do feel for you. Get your body going again at 110% and it is sure to happen again soon. I am upping my exercise and am watching what I eat, and have my fingers and toes crossed!

Good luck xxx

 

[annahk]

Dear Jane

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Having had 4 miscarriages, I can well imagine what you are going through. As the other posters have mentioned it is extremely common, but that does not help your grieving process. Neither does the knowledge that it does happen for a reason, a fietus usually miscarries if the genetic make-up mean that it will not survive outside the uterus.

Having a miscarriage does not mean that you will have trouble getting or staying pregnant next time. Despite my history, I have 2 perfect children and am 6 months along with my 3rd. Must admit that I am totally neurotic every time though, and my doctor is probably sick of the sight of me (I assume that every little twinge or drop of blood is bad news).

There is nothing that you can do to prevent a miscarriage, especially at 5 weeks. Neither is there any set time that you should wait before trying again. Give yourself time to recover from this loss and try when you are physically and emotionally ready. Some doctors say to wait one or two periods, which helps with dating the pregnancy etc. With modern ultrasounds, the dating is no longer a problem. Some doctors will prescribe aspirin, progesterone etc. for future pregnancies, but that is done on a case by case basis.

I promise that it gets easier. Just allow yourself time but keep reminding yourself that you did nothing to cause this and could not have doen anything to prevent it. Very best of luck!!!

 

[reei]

book

perhaps you would like to read this book:
"How to prevent miscarriage and other crises of pregnancy" by stefan semchyshyn, m.d. and carol colman.

good luck.:grouphug: